为您找到与老外打招呼手势相关的共30个结果:
其实中英文化是有很大差异的,两个中国人在练习英语口语的时候也许他们或多或少都能听明白对方的意思,因为大家的逻辑思维是一样的。但是当中国人和外国人交流时也许情况就没有想象中的好了。更加重要的是有些手势是外国人无法接受和理解的,所以我们在和外国人接触中千万不要有以下手势哟。
1. Speech marks
1、引号
“行了,别说了”
2. Tapping nose for "none of your business"
2、轻拍鼻子,意指“不关你的事”
“略去很多,一言难尽”
3. Extending palm outwards to mean "talk to the hand"
3、将手掌向外伸开,表示“行了,别说了”
“不关你的事”
4. Touching fingers to thumb to mean "blah blah blah"
4、四指与拇指上下扇动,表示“略去很多,一言难尽”
用手指做出手枪的样子
5. Making a pistol with your fingers
5、用手指做出手枪的样子
用拳击掌以示暴力
6. Punching your hand to suggest violence
6、用拳击掌以示暴力
“我可盯着你呢”
7. Pointing at eye for "I'm watching you"
7、手指着眼睛,表示“我可盯着你呢”
“给我打电话”
8. Making a phone with your hand to indicate "call me"
8、用手做出打电话的动作,表示“给我打电话”
假装打哈欠
9. A fake yawn
9、假装打哈欠
做出割喉状
10. Slicing your throat with a finger
10、一个手指横放在喉咙旁,做出割喉状
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《学习拉》英语栏目收录了英美人日常生活中经常说到、用到的最实用的有关日常生活会话句子、短语,满足你的需求。
1. I couldn''t care less.
这句话的意思是「我不在乎」,「缺乏兴趣」(lack of interest),也就是:I don''t care at all. 或 I don''t give a hoot. 例如:
人家如果问: What do you think of the budget-cut?(你对预算削减有何看法?)
你回答: I couldn''t care less.(我毫不在乎)
How do you like Mr. Lee''s political point of view?(你喜欢李先生的政见吗?)
I couldn''t care less.(我才不在乎呢!)
但是有时说话者也有「口是心非」: 例如:
I couldn''t care less about the promotion or pay raise.(我不在乎升级或加薪)
而实际上他是根本在乎升级和加薪的,那么人家也许就会回答说: Yes, you do(care).
至于 I couldn''t care more. 就是「我很在乎」(I care a lot.)或 I care deeply. 同理:
I couldn''t agree more.=I totally agree.(我完全同意)
I couldn''t please you more.=I did my best to please you.(我尽量使你高兴)
I couldn''t be more right.=I am totally right.
但是老外为了「自尊」,不愿强调自己的错误,所以很少人说:
I couldn''t be more wrong.
注意:一般人都用否定句,但也有老外把肯定句与否定句互用。
不过,严格来说,I could care less. = I care to some degree.(care 的程度可能减少)
I could care more.=I care some.(care的程度也许增加)(主词可用任何人称代名词:he, she, you, we, they 等。但只用 could,不用 can。)
2. No bones about it.
意思是:真实的,诚恳的(truly, sincerely or exactly),也就是 to make no bones about it.(bone 要加 s, it 是指 something)例如:
His wife is beautiful;no bones about it.(他的太太真是很漂亮)
Mr. A made no bones about it when he talked about abortion issue.(当 A 先生谈到堕胎问题时,他是诚恳的。)
When I spoke on the topic,he said, "No bones about it."(也就是他同意我的看法)
No bones about it;the weather is very chilly today.(今天是真的太冷了)
3. take it on me!
意思是:「这是我的,请用吧!」「这是免费的」(help yourself to it; it is free),这多半是指吃的东西或一些不贵重的东西。例如:
Here are some candies from England; take one on me. (这是来自英国的糖果,尝一个吧!) (one = candy)
The restaurant owner said to me, "Take the dessert on me." (餐馆老板对我说:「尝尝我的甜点吧!」)
Please take these pencils on me.(取用一些我的铅笔吧!) (也许铅笔上刻有名字,做为宣传之用而免费。)
可见 take 后面的 it,是指 something,而 on 的后面通常不指别人,所以多半也只用在第一人称单数 me。
(假如夫妇在一起,也可以说:Take it on us.)
4. I am from Missouri.
这句话有时后面要加一句:「I need to be shown.」或「You have got to show me.」,意思是 Missouri 州的人很固执 (stubborn),不太信任别人,一定要人家「证明一下」(prove it to me),所以密苏里州也被称为「The Show Me State」。
据说这句话所以流行 (尤其在美国中西部) 是因为美国一些名人都住过密苏里州,包括 Harry Truman, Mark Twain, Walt Disney 等。后来老外不轻易相信别人时,就使用这句话。(也有半开玩笑性质) 例如:
He is not easily convinced because he is from Missouri. (他是来自密苏里州,所以不容易说服他。)
Don''t try to fool me; I am from Missouri.(You have got to show me.) (别愚弄我,我是来自密苏里州。)
We are all from Missouri; we need to be shown.
As Mr. Smith is a tough guy; he must be from Missouri. (Smith先生是位倔强的人,他一定是来自密苏里州。)
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打招呼是日常人际交往中必不可少的,打招呼也有许多值得推敲的技巧,今天读文网小编在这里为大家介绍关于打招呼英语情景对话,欢迎大家阅读!
Hello, Mr. Tanaka. Welcome to Silicon Valley Software.
你好,田中先生。欢迎光临硅谷软件公司。
I'm Jack, VP of Sales. Very nice to meet you.
我是杰克,销售副总裁。很高兴见到您。
I'm Takashi Tanaka, General Manager of Tokyo Technology.
我是田中高志, 东京科技总经理。
It's nice to meet you as well. Please call me Taka.
我也很高兴见到您。请叫我塔卡。
I'm Victoria, VP of Marketing. It's great to finally meet you face to face.
我是维多利亚,市场营销副总裁。很高兴终于可以面见您。
After speaking so often on the phone, it's nice to "put a face with the voice".
电话里交谈那么频繁后,很高兴可以“把声音和面容连到一起”。
Thank you for coming all the way from Japan to visit our company.
很感谢您从日本远道而来拜访我们的公司。
We've been looking forward to meeting you today. How was the flight?
我们一直期待着今天见到您。飞行旅程还好吗?
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要学好英语口语,首先要清晰流利地表达自己所要表达的意思。要流利地表达,就要注意说话的语速.单词和句子的重音位置以及语流。语速可以保证有效顺畅地交流;重音可以精准地表达自己想要表达的意思;语流既有助于自己的发音.也让听者听起来觉得舒服地道。
在餐馆等位,如果没人安排,咱们自己去等,眼看别人快吃完,又不能确定,怎么去问人家?按咱们以往学过的句式,很可能问对方:
“Have you finished?”(您吃完了吗?)当然这句没错,对方肯定能明白,但老美则往往会这么问:
“Are youdone (finished)?”(您吃完了吗?)
这句话在标准语法里也是有问题的——用被动式代替了完成时,按字面意义似乎成了“你被做了吗?”(歧义时显得暧昧),但现实中他们十有八九就是这么说的,口语里很少直接用完成时表达“完成”的意思。
你回答时可以“顺水推舟”:
“Yeah!I'm almost done. Just a couple ofminutes。”(没错,我快吃完了,再等两分钟)
这样的交流就没问题了。
以上几个例子说明,熟记了语法,还不足以了解语言的全部,而语言首先是用来交流的,而不是用来考试的,考试只是手段,而不是最终目的。因此,真的希望咱们的英语教材里多一些日常生活中
鲜活的表述,而不是仅仅盯着可以用来测试的、枯燥死板的语法规则。这样,也许可以多少让学过英语又跨进美国国门的人避免一些英语交际方面的尴尬。
所以,我还是想建议准备带孩子出国的家长,出国前不妨找母语是英语的老外,跟着他们学习一段,哪怕只是简单地进行口语交流,也会对孩子有好处。
毕竟,人家的地盘,人家“说了算”。
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手势指的是人在运用手臂时,所出现的具体动作与体位。它是人类最早使用的、至今仍被广泛运用的一种交际工具。在一般情况下,手势既有处于动态之中的,也有处于静态之中的。在长期的社会实践过程中,手势被赋予了种种特定的含义,具有丰富的表现力,加上手有指、腕、肘、肩等关节,活动幅度大,具有高度的灵活性,手势便成了人类表情达意的最有力的手段,在体态语言中占有最重要的地位。那么你知道手势用英语怎么说吗?下面来学习一下吧。
1. He gestured to Alice to precede them from the room.
他给艾丽斯做手势,让她在他们前面离开房间。
2. She could only raise her hand in a gesture of benediction.
她只得举起手来做了一个祝福的手势。
3. We communicated in a medley of foreign words and universal gestures.
我们边说着外语,边打着通用的手势进行交流。
4. Greg made a vague gesture to indicate how much.
格雷格做了一个含糊的手势表示有多少。
5. In a theatrical gesture Glass clamped his hand over his eyes.
格拉斯做了一个夸张的手势,用一只手将双眼紧紧捂上了。
6. The teenagers shook their long, black hair and gesticulated crazily.
那些小青年甩着黑色的长发,做着各种奇怪的手势。
7. They were waving V-signs for victory.
他们打着象征胜利的V字形手势。
8. He made a dismissive gesture. "Suit yourself."
他做了一个很不屑的手势。“随你便。”
9. He moved his hands expressively.
他的手势富于表现力。
10. Luke made a rude gesture with his finger.
卢克用手指做了个下流的手势。
11. I made a gesture of dissent.
我做了个表示不同意的手势。
12. Mr Griffin made a jerky gesture.
格里芬先生急匆匆地做了个手势。
13. He made a rude gesture at the driver of the other car.
他向另外那辆汽车的司机做了个粗野的手势。
14. a gesture of submission
投降的手势
15. I gave him the two fingers.
我对他做了一个侮辱性的手势
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英文简历一向是困扰中国学生的难题,很多人都是套用中文简历的模式,将中文翻译过去,用来凑数,毕竟如果是找国内的企业,英文简历多数不过是用来装门面而已。但如果要应聘外企的话,您可就得在简历上多下点功夫了。本网向大家推出一些原版英文简历,供大家参考使用。
Peter David Stevens
University of Texas at Austin
1 University Station - C2369
Austin, TX 78712
(512) 555-3454
pdstevens@utexas.edu
http://www.utexas.edu/~pdstevens/
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EDUCATION BACHELOR OF BUSINESS ADMINISTRATION IN MARKETING
University of Texas, Austin, TX, May 2002
College and Graduate School of Business
Major: Marketing; Minor: Spanish
Cumulative GPA: 3.8
PROFESSIONAL SKILLS
Entrepreneurial: | Designed, published and promoted 35-page marketing Web site. Established, managed, and sold lawn service consisting of 20 clients. Founded and maintained car detailing service responsible for 25 clients. |
Professional Sales: | Telemarketed as an order-taker for Longhorn Tire Supply, which involved learning and implementing sales presentation and conflict-resolution skills. Performed cold, door-to-door sales calls to obtain clientele for a deli delivery route and landscape service company. Solicited Austin business professionals for donations and sponsorships of UT Crew, Club Hispanic, and George Bush Hall events. |
Communications: | Composed business news articles as an intern and authored editorial articles as a freelance columnist for the Texas Business Weekly. Drafted professional letters for the Texas Bureau for Compliance Monitoring and a financial assistance proposal for the Austin Rotary Club in an academic internship with the Migrant Farm Workers Association. Performed reading, writing, and speaking activities in Spanish while participating in a language immersion program in Costa Rica, a Latin American Studies trip in Guatemala, and a business internship program in Ecuador. |
Multicultural: | Developed integrated marketing plan for sale of services to Latin American municipalities through internship program in Ecuador. Participated in Spanish immersion program in San José, Costa Rica, while living with a local family and attending a language school for one month. Interacted with Mayan Indians to observe their cultural norms and study their language for two weeks through a Latin American Studies trip to Guatemala. |
HONORS | Who's Who Among Students in American Universities National Honor Society: 4 Semesters Dean's List: 4 Semesters Honor Roll: 2 Semesters |
ACTIVITIES | Resident Assistant, UT Department of Residential Life General Member, UT Alumni Association Rower, UT Crew Team |
Notes:
The Cumulative GPA (Grade Point Average) is the calculation of all grades received while an undergraduate or a graduate student at the university.
意思就是平均分,美国的GPA满分是4分,即A=4,B=3,C=2, D=1.GPA的精确度往往达到小数点后1到2位,如:3.0,3.45。GPA的计算一般是将每门课程的学分乘以 学时,加起来以后除以总的学时,得出平均分。中国学校的分数设置一般是百分制或五分制,具体的折合方式视不同的美国大学的要求而有所不同,一般来讲,百分制中的90分以上可视为4分,80分以上 为3分,70分以上为2分,60分以上为1分,五分制中的5分为4分,4分为3分,3分为2分,2分为1分。中 国许多大学的成绩单上没有学时,因此,GPA只能估算,可将所有课程的成绩加起来后除以课程数。一 般美国大学对于奖学金申请者的GPA要求是3.0以上。
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有很多种方式用英语打招呼。学习其他打招呼的方式,而不是常见的“hi”或“hello”。大家跟着小编一起来看一下吧。
这里是一些朋友们互相打招呼的典型情景:
Paolo and Daren meet but Helli joins them later (Paolo和Daren相遇了,但是之后Helli加入了他们) Daren: Hello Paolo, what's up?(你好,Paolo,你好吗?)
Paolo: Hi Daren, how're you doing?(你好,Daren,你最近怎么样?)
Daren: I'm alright, and yourself?(我很好,你呢?)
Paolo: I'm good, work is keeping me busy.(我很好,我工作很繁忙。)
Daren: That's good, I can't complain either.(那很好,我一定不会抱怨的。) (Helli walks past)(Helli走过了)
Oh! I've been meaning to introduce you to an old friend of mine.( 哦! 我想把你介绍给我的一个老朋友。)
Helli: I'm not old, Daren! Hi, my name is Helli and you must be Paolo? I have heard so much about you. (我不老,Daren!你好, 我的名字叫Helli,你肯定是Paolo吧?我听说过你很多次了。)
Paolo: Good things I hope? It's nice to meet you, Helli.(我想是好事吧?很高兴见到你,Helli。)
Helli: Pleasure is all mine, Paolo. (我也很高兴,Paolo)
Daren: What's with the formalities? Just say hi! Helli is one of us! Anyway Helli and I have to go, later Paolo! (何必这么客气?只要说你好就可以了!Helli是自己人!不管怎样,Helli和我要走了,待会见,Paolo!)
Paolo: Later Daren and I hope to see you soon Helli. (Daren和我希望不久就能再见到你,Helli。)
Helli: Likewise Paolo! (你也一样,Paolo!)
还有其他不同的非语言式的打招呼方式,像是如果是你认识的人的话,可以亲吻脸颊或简单地拥抱一下。打招呼是你认出别人最容易的方式。
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手势 “V”掌 心向外, 竖起食指和中指, 并向两边展开, 这样就构成了一个V 形手势。V形手势在美国文化中有三个不同的含义。
V形手势最为普及的一个意思是在1941 年由比利时人维克托· 德· 拉维雷创造发明的。他伸出双指, 作出字母V的手势来表示他对纳粹占领比利时的反抗。这个V 不仅代表他的名字, 而且还象征英语victory ( 胜利) 、佛兰芒语virijheid( 胜利) 和法语victoire ( 胜利) 这三个单词。这一手势的象征意义迅速地传播开来, 温斯顿· 邱吉尔在公众场合就曾多次使用。因此, 在20 世纪40 年代和50 年代, 这个手势只是表示“ 胜利”的意思。
The most popular meaning of the "V" sign was invented in 1941 by a Belgian, Victor De Lavalaye. Wanting a symbol for resistance to the Nazi occupation, he came up with the single letter "V", which stood not only for his own first name, but also for English victory, Flemish virijheid, and French victoire. The symbolism of the sign spread very quickly, and Winston Churchill used it constantly in public appearance. Thus throughout the 1940s and 1950s, the gesture meant simply "victory".
V 形手势的第二个意思出现在20世纪60年代。由于这个手势含有军事方面的意思,美国反战者就讽刺性地用这个手势来反对战争, 于是, 这个手势开始被称为“ 和平的标志”。20世纪70年代, V 形手势失去了军事方面的含义, 成为热爱自由的人、嗜用迷幻药的人、政治激进主义 者们见面问候时常用的手势, 并最终在广大年轻人流传开来。也就是说, 大约到20 世纪70 年代中期, 这个手势就不再表示使用者的人生观了。
The second meaning came in the 1960s. Because of its military implication, American antiwar protestors used the sign sarcastically against the arms, so that it became known as the "peace sign". In the 1970s, the "V" sign, which had lost its military implication, was a common greeting among freedom lovers, acid heads, political radicals, and ultimately, young people in general. So by about the middle of the 1970s, it ceased to give clue to the user's philosophy.
V 形手势的第三个意思最为古老, 也少为人用。【在集体照相的时候, 美国孩子常开玩笑地在朋友的脑袋后面摆出手势V, 样子就像动物的角一样。】 他们无意中做出了一个被南欧人视为相当无礼的动作。这种被称作“ 魔鬼之角”的恶作剧是欧洲“ 角形”手势的变体,这种手势被认为具有淫秽的意味。在南欧, 手势V 表示“ 你的老婆对你不 忠”。在别人脑袋后面做出这种手势, 如同在说“ 他的老婆对他不忠”。
The third meaning is the oldest and least common. American children jokingly put "V", which resembles "horns", behind friends' heads in group snapshot. They are unknowingly reproducing something that southern Europeans would find highly offensive. This mischief, called "horns of the Devil", is a variant of the European "horns" gesture, which is obscene. Here the "V" sign means "Your wife has been cheating on you" or, when placed behind another's head, "His wife has been cheating on him.
在美国, 人们通常将掌心向外, 面向对方做出这个手势; 而英国人有时将掌心对着别人, 有时则像前人那样, 掌心向内。掌心向内的V 形手势在美国文化里被看成是下流动作, 与美国人竖起中指一样具有淫秽的含义。1941 年, 邱吉尔掌心朝内, 向英国军队摆出了V 形手势。一些士兵吃惊地盯着他看, 显然他对这个手势的下流含义还全然不知。如今, 在英国, 如果你还不知道掌心向内和向外的差别的话, 你一定是个不问世事的隐士。然而, 令人惊讶的是, 玛格丽特· 撒切尔在赢得1979年的选举之后, 又重蹈邱吉尔的覆辙, 做了一个掌心向内的V 形手势。
In the United States, the gesture is typically given with the palm facing the viewer. The British use both this version and an older, palm-backward version; the latter is obscene in American culture, and corresponds to the American "finger". Churchill got some surprised stares in 1941 when, evidently unaware of the vulgar usage, he gave the palm-backward "V" to British troops. In England today you could have to be a social hermit not to understand the distinction. Astonishingly, however, Margaret Thatcher repeated Churchill's error after her victory in the 1979 election.
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身处异国他乡,最大的悲哀莫过于歪果仁笑得人仰马翻,你却不知所云。想跟歪果仁打成一片,光是语言能力过硬是远远不够的。不过也不必妄自菲薄,能不能get笑话,更多是文化背景和幽默感知的问题。下面是读文网小编整理的文化差异:老外笑点我不懂,看看大家能不能get得了老外的笑点。
世间最尴尬的事莫过于周围的人都被段子(笑话)逗得哄堂大笑,只有你还没发现笑点。如果这段子是用外语讲的,那么尴尬值增加一万点。
It is beyond awkward when everyone around you bursts outlaughing at a joke that you do not find funny, especially if it’s ajoke told in a foreign language.
While Chinese students find it easy to adapt to a foreign lifestyle, socializing with locals is muchharder, according to a recent study. Researchers looked at how well Chinese students integratedinto communities across the world. Of all the activities they struggled with, understanding jokeswas considered the toughest.
最近一项研究发现,中国学生很容易适应国外的生活方式,但和老外打交道就没那么简单了。研究者对中国留学生如何融入世界各地群体进行了分析。在留学生面对的所有问题中,理解笑话被认为是最难的。
Most of the time, jokes are funny only for people who share a common cultural background orperceive humor in the same way.
多数情况下,笑话只有在文化背景相同或幽默感知方式相近的人中间才有笑果。
Chinese-American comedian Joe Wong found this out first-hand. He had achieved huge successdoing stand-up comedy in the US, but when he returned to China in 2008 for his first live gig inBeijing, he discovered that humor doesn’t translate. People didn’t think his Chinese jokes were asfunny as his English ones, the Global Times reported.
美籍华裔脱口秀主持人黄西对此感同身受。他在美国脱口秀节目中一炮而红,不过2008年,当他回到中国在北京开第一场现场脱口秀时,他发现幽默是无法被翻译的。《环球时报》报道说,大家觉得他的英语段子比中文的有趣。
Being able to understand local jokes can help students feel a sense of belonging. But even withoutthe ability to understand jokes, students should not feel any less confident about themselves.
理解当地人的笑话能让留学生更有归属感。不过就算听不懂老外的笑话,也不必丧失自信。
“It’s OK if you don’t get the jokes. Don’t doubt yourself [because] a lot of the times, it is not aproblem of language ability; it’s a matter of the known and unknown,” said Christine Han, whowas once an overseas student and is now an Australian permanent resident.
曾在澳洲留学、现在是澳大利亚永久居民的克莉丝汀•韩说:“理解不了笑话也没关系。不必自我怀疑,(因为)这不是语言能力的问题;这是知道就知道,不知道就不知道的事儿。”
Australian humor
澳式幽默
The fact that Australia is called “Down Under” is funny by itself. Australia is ready-made for jokes,thanks to its history as a colony for convicts, its peculiar accent, the Outback and its strangecuisine. However, to most Chinese overseas students, understanding jokes about sports is thebiggest headache.
事实上,澳大利亚的别称“在南方的下面”( 英语里北为up,南为down,澳大利亚在旧大陆的南边)本身就很有趣。它曾是流放犯人的殖民地,它的古怪口音,它的内陆和奇葩菜肴,都让澳大利亚的笑话俯拾皆是。不过对大多数中国留学生来说,最头疼的还是理解和体育有关的笑话。
“The hardest jokes are related to rugby because I know nothing about rugby,” said Melody Cao,who was once a student in Australia. “When I heard jokes I didn’t get, I just laughed along.”
“最难懂的笑话是和橄榄球有关的,因为我对橄榄球一无所知,”曾在澳洲留学的梅洛迪•曹说。“当我听不懂笑话时,我就跟着大家一起笑。”
Sport is an important part of Australian national identity. According to the Australian Bureau ofStatistics, 16 percent (2.8 million) of the population aged 15 years and over watched Australianfootball in 2010. About 9 percent (1.6 million) attended a rugby league game.
体育是澳大利亚民族认同的重要部分。据澳大利亚统计局数据,全国15岁及以上人口中有16%(约280万)观看了2010年的澳式足球赛,9%(约160万)参加过橄榄球联赛。
The rugby jokes are usually about how immature and dumb rugby players are, like in these twodialogues:
橄榄球的段子常常拿那些水平欠佳,不太灵光的球员开涮, 比如下面两段对话:
A: “Why don’t rugby players have mid-life crises?”
A:“为什么橄榄球运动员没有中年危机?”
B: “They stay stuck in adolescence.”
B:“因为他们被困在了青春期。”
A: “Why do rugby players like smart women?”
A:“为什么橄榄球运动员喜欢精明的女人?”
B: “Opposites attract.”
B:“因为异性相吸。”
British humor vs American humor
英式幽默vs 美式幽默
British actor and comedian Simon Pegg discussed the differences between British and Americansense of humor in a column for The Guardian. He believes that while Brits use irony on a dailybasis, the Americans do not see the point of using it so frequently. He wrote: “British jokes, on theother hand, tend to be more subtle with a dark or sarcastic undertone... the [American] jokes aremore obvious and forward, a bit like Americans themselves.”
英国喜剧演员西蒙•佩吉曾在《卫报》专栏探讨过英式和美式幽默的区别。他认为英国人每天都会用反讽的幽默,而美国人用的却不是很多。他写道:“换句话说,英式笑话更隐晦,伴有黑色和讽刺的潜台词……而美式笑话更明显、直白,和美国人的个性很像。”
Pegg illustrated his point by transcribing a joke he heard a British friend make, in the wake offamily tragedy.
佩吉转述了他从英国朋友那听到的一个笑话,调侃的是一出家庭悲剧。
A: “I had to go to my granddad’s funeral last week.”
A:“上周我去参加了我爷爷的葬礼。”
B: “Sorry to hear that.”
B:“节哀顺变。”
A: “Don’t be. It was the first time he ever paid for the drinks.”
A:“别这么说。这可是他第一次掏钱买喝的。”
In her book Watching the English – the Hidden Rules of English Behavior, Kate Fox, a British socialanthropologist, describes her country’s humor rules. She argues that irony, understatement andself-depreciation are ingrained in the English mindset. “Humor is our ‘default mode’... We do nothave to switch it on deliberately, and we cannot switch it off,” wrote Fox.
社会人类学家凯特•福克斯在她的书《英国人的言行潜规则》中描述了英国的幽默方式。她认为,讽刺、轻描淡写和自黑是英国人骨子里根深蒂固的东西。她写道:“幽默是我们的‘默认模式’……我们不必刻意启动它,当然也不能关掉它。”
“American humor is more straightforward like the punchlines in the famous TV show Friends,” anInternet user named “Zac” wrote on Zhihu. “You burst out laughing immediately when you watchAmerican humor, and then you forget about it quite quickly, but it takes time to digest Englishhumor, and it may be funnier when you reminisce about it.”
知乎网友Zac说:“美式幽默一般直白、浅显,如《老友记》的笑料。”“美式笑料属于当场大笑,笑过就忘,而英式幽默属于细嚼慢咽型,回味或许比看的当下更觉得好笑。”
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摘录:经常旅游的人必须学会看懂手势语。当你需要和别人交流、却又不懂对方当地语言时,肢体语言就显得非常重要了。那么,出国旅行时有什么手势是要注意不能做的呢?下面快来看看吧。
Frequent travelers must be great at charades. When you need to communicate and you don’t have the luxury of a shared language, body language is invaluable.
A skilled traveler can negotiate a taxi, buy food in a market, and get directions from a stranger through hand motions alone.
Things can get lost in translation, though, when a typical gesture from your country means something completely different in other parts of the world.
经常旅游的人必须学会看懂手势语。当你需要和别人交流、却又不懂对方当地语言时,肢体语言就显得非常重要了。
一位经验丰富的旅者只凭打手势就能顺利搭乘出租、在市场采买食物以及向陌生人问路。
然而有时候在你们国家是某种含义的手势,在世界其他地方可能完全不同,所以在不同国家的同一个手势就可能让你感到迷惑了。
Below are ten common North American gestures that often cause offense abroad.
下面10种常见的北美手势国外容易导致冒犯。
1. V in Australia and England
澳大利亚和英国-“V”字手势
In 1992, George Bush visited Australia and, from the window of his limousine, held up his index and middle fingers in the “V” shape, a la Winston Churchill. With the palm facing outward, this V means victory in England, or peace in North America. Too bad Bush gestured with his palm facing inward, the nonverbal equivalent of “up yours.”
1992年,乔治·布什拜访澳大利的时候,效仿温斯顿·丘吉尔,从豪华的轿车里伸出食指和中指作出“V”字形的手势。手掌朝外摆出“V”字形在英国意味着胜利,在北美意味着和平。然而糟糕的是,布什的手掌朝内,这一手势意味着“见你的鬼去吧”。
2. Displaying your palms in Greece
希腊-手掌外翻
We use this gesture in North America to say “stop,” or, if you’re a child of the Jerry Springer era, “talk to the hand.” In Greece, keep your palms to yourself. Holding your palms out towards a person is a highly insulting gesture. This gesture is said to be a remnant of Byzantine times, when people could taunt shackled criminals by smearing their faces with excrement.
这个手势在北美的意思是“停止”,或者,如果你是杰里·斯普林格那个时代的孩子,你就知道这个手势就意味着“懒得理你”。 在希腊,最好保持手掌对着自己,因为对着别人伸出手掌是一种非常侮辱人的手势。这个手势要追溯到拜占庭时期,当时人们可以通过在脸上抹屎嘲讽狱中的罪犯。
3. Thumbs-up in Thailand
泰国-翘拇指
This gesture of agreement or approval is an easy reflex when language barriers are at play. Try to avoid it in Thailand, though, where it’s a sign of condemnation. It’s typically a child’s gesture, the Thai equivalent of sticking out your tongue. People will likely be more bemused than hurt if you slip up. Still, it’s a good one to avoid.
这个手势表示同意和认可,然而在有语言障碍时却可能起到反作用。在泰国尽量不要用这个手势,因为它表示谴责。这个手势是典型的孩子专用手势,在泰语中等同于吐舌头。如果你弄错了这个手势,虽然人们不会感到受伤而只是迷惑不解,但最好还是要尽量避免。
4.Beckoning in the Philippines
菲律宾-勾手指
Curling your index finger to say “come here” is a no-no in many Asian countries. In the Philippines, this gesture is only used for dogs. To use it with a person is derogatory; suggesting that you see them as a subservient inferior. Hardly a good way to make a first impression when signaling a waiter or shop clerk.
在许多亚洲国家,勾食指让别人“过来”是一种禁忌。在菲律宾,这个手势只用在狗身上。把它用在人身上是非常不敬的,表示你把他们看得低人一等。 招呼服务员或者店员时,这个手势绝不是留下第一印象的好办法。
5. Patting on the head in Sri Lanka
斯里兰卡-摸摸头
An open-palmed pat on the head of a child is a gesture of fondness in North America. If you need to get a child’s attention, it’s also the easiest place to tap them. In the Buddhist faith, though, the top of the head is the highest point of the body, and its where the spirit exists. To touch the top of a person’s head is highly invasive, for children and adults alike. Avoid this in any country with a predominant Buddhist population.
在北美,手掌轻拍小孩的头部是一种表示喜欢的手势。如果你需要引起小孩子的注意,最简单的方法就是轻拍他们的头部。不过,在佛教信仰中,头顶是身体的最高点,也是灵魂的所在之处。 触摸一个人的头顶,无论他是小孩还是成人,都是非常不敬的。在以佛教为主的国家尽量避免这个动作。
6. OK in France
法国-“ok”
Making a circle with your thumb and forefinger means “great” or “fine” in North America. It’s also used by scuba divers to communicate that there are no problems. In France, however, this gesture means “zero.” Unless you’re motioning to a French scuba diver, you might be accidentally communicating that something (or someone) is worthless. A bad idea when trying to compliment a chef on your meal.
拇指和食指构成环形在北美意味着“很好的”或“好的”。带水肺的潜水员们也用这个手势交流,表示没有问题。不过,这个手势在法国表示“0”。除非你是在向一个法国带水肺潜水员示意,否则你会不小心传达出某个东西或某个人毫无价值的意思。 用餐时,最好不要用这个手势去向厨师表示你对他的称赞。
7. “Got your Nose!” in Turkey
土耳其-“指向你的鼻子”
A first with the thumb tucked under the index finger doesn’t have a set North American meaning, except when playing “got your nose” with a child. It also means the letter “T” in American Sign Language. In Turkey, this gesture is aggressively rude; the middle-finger equivalent.
把拇指放在食指之下指向自己的鼻子这一动作在北美没有固定的意义,除非你在跟小孩玩“摸鼻子”游戏。这个手势在美国的手势语中也代表字母“T”。然而在土耳其做这个手势是非常粗鲁的,相当于竖中指。
8. One-handed giving in Japan
日本-单手递送东西
In the West, people aren’t especially mindful of their hands when they offer objects to others. In Japan, though, it is polite and expected for people to make offerings with both hands. If you give someone a business card, or hand them your camera to take a photo, be sure to pass on the item with both hands. This shows that you are fully attentive and sincere in the offering. A one-handed presentation might be taken as dismissive.
在西方,人们在递给别人东西的时候,通常不会特别注意自己的手。但是,在日本,双手递送东西是对别人的一种礼貌和尊重。如果你要给某人一张商务名片,或递给某人相机帮你拍照,要确保是双手递东西。这样才能显示你在递送过程中的诚意。单手递送会被理解为轻视。
9. Crossing your Fingers in Vietnam
越南-交叉手指
Many western cultures make this gesture when wishing for good luck. A hand with the index and middle fingers crossed is even the logo for the UK’s National Lottery. In Vietnam, however, this is an obscene gesture, especially when done while looking at or addressing another person. The crossed fingers are said to resemble female genitals.
很多西方国家用这个手势来祷告祈福,一只手的食指和中指交叉甚至是英国国家彩票的标志。不过在越南,尤其是在看着别人或者对别人说话时,做这个手势是很猥琐的。据说交叠的手指象征着女性的隐私部位。
10. Bull Horns in Italy
意大利-牛角手势
North Americans raise their index and pinkie fingers like bull horns when they want to rock and roll all night… or cheer on a sports team with a name like “Cowboys” or “Longhorns.” In Italy, think twice before making this motion, especially when standing right behind a man. There, this “cuckold” gesture means that a man’s wife is being unfaithful, and he is a fool because of it. Incidentally, this gesture is quite common at Italian sports matches too, though its usually put to use after a referee’s bad call.
当北美人想要彻夜摇滚、或为带有“牛仔”或“德克萨斯州”字样的体育队伍欢呼喝彩的时候,他们通常会伸出食指和小手指,形状像牛角一样。但是,在意大利要三思后再做出这个动作,特别是当你站在一个男人身后的时候。这个手势说明那个男人的老婆不贞,而他就是一个戴着绿帽子的傻瓜。巧合的是,这个手势在意大利的体育比赛中也很常见,然而它表示对裁判员误判的不满。
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摘要:《三体》首创先河,为英语世界的读者们提供了一个机会,使他们也能够领略到这名中国最受欢迎的科幻小说家刘慈欣获奖多次的非凡之作。
在第73届世界科幻小说大会(Sasquan)上,2015年雨果奖各奖得主揭开悬念。
The 73rd World Science Fiction Convention, Sasquan, has announced the 2015 Hugo Award winners.
Chinese writer Liu Cixin's sci-fi novel-"The Three-body Problem" has won the 2015 Hugo Award for Best Novel.
中国作家刘慈欣创作的科幻小说《三体》荣膺2015年雨果奖最佳小说奖。
The Three-Body Problem is the first chance for English-speaking readers to experience this multiple award winning phenomenon from China's most beloved science fiction author, Liu Cixin.
《三体》首创先河,为英语世界的读者们提供了一个机会,使他们也能够领略到这名中国最受欢迎的科幻小说家刘慈欣获奖多次的非凡之作。
Set against the backdrop of China's Cultural Revolution, a secret military project sends signals into space to establish contact with aliens. An alien civilization on the brink of destruction captures the signal and plans to invade Earth. Meanwhile, on Earth, different camps start forming, planning to either welcome the superior beings and help them take over a world seen as corrupt, or to fight against the invasion. The result is a science fiction masterpiece of enormous scope and vision.
小说以中国的“”时期为背景,一个秘密军事组织开展了一项神秘计划,即通过向太空发射信号试图与外星人建立联系。一个濒于灭绝的外星文明收到了信号,企图侵略地球。同时,地球上也开始形成不同的军事组织,他们各怀异心,有的认为地球文明已经腐败不堪,想要对那些外星高等生物拱手欢迎,帮助他们占领地球。有的则想要抵御外星人的侵略。种种矛盾最终酝酿成了一部视野宏阔、想象奇诡的科幻文学大作。
The book was published in 2008 and became one of the most popular science fiction novels in China.It received the Chinese Science Fiction Galaxy Award in 2006. A film adaptation of the same name is scheduled for release in July 2016.
该书于2008年出版,成为中国最受欢迎的科幻小说之一。它于2006年荣获中国科幻文学银河奖。改编自该小说的同门电影预定于2016年7月上映。
雨果奖很牛X吗?
雨果奖(Hugo Award)得名于《惊奇故事杂志》(Amazing Stories)的创办人雨果·根斯巴克(Hugo Gernsback),自1953年起,每年由“世界科幻协会”(World Science Fiction Society,简称WSFS)所颁发,正式名为“科幻成就奖”(The Science Fiction Achievement Award)。
雨果奖的分量到底有多重?对于全世界的SF小说作家而言,获得雨果奖=获得了科幻艺术界的诺贝尔奖,它与星云奖等同为最具权威也是影响世界的两项科幻大奖。
雨果奖(英文:Hugo Award)是一个颁发给科幻或奇幻小说的文学奖。每年由世界科幻年会(Worldcon, World Science Fiction Convention)的参加者投票,从上年度内的作品中选出获奖者,其选举过程则由世界科幻社群(WSFS)制订。与星云奖同为科幻界最受瞩目的年度奖项。
老外有多喜欢《三体》?
《三体》英文版在海外亚马逊上获三星以上好评读92%,有407位读者留言热评。
@Nancy Famolari
This is one of the best science fiction books I have ever read. The background relies heavily on physics which makes it fascinating. The author does an excellent job of weaving real concepts into his story. If you enjoy physics, this is a must read.
这是我读过最棒的科幻小说之一!浓墨重彩的物理学背景使得整个故事十分引人入胜。作者在将真实概念编入故事这一点上做得无与伦比的出色!如果你喜欢物理学,一定要读一读这本书。
@Kilgore Gagarin(亚马逊TOP500热门评论家)
Please, please, please read at least to the halfway point. Mr. Liu's plot slowly and steadily increases the pace. I loved the entire book. If you find yourself thinking, "What's the big deal" just keep on going. This is a FUN read!
千万千万千万至少不要半途而弃,刘大师的情节进展循序渐进步步前行。大爱这本书!如果你发现自己也在疑惑“到底有啥神奇之处?”一定要继续读下去。其乐无穷哦!
Note that this is the first of an original trilogy by the author, and I'm hooked.
PS:这是作者原著三部曲的首章,而我已经欲罢不能了呢!
《三体》经典语录
“Your lack of fear is based on your ignorance.”
你的无畏来源于无知。
“In China, any idea that dared to take flight would only crash back to the ground. The gravity of reality is too strong.”
在中国,任何超脱飞扬的思想都会砰然坠地——现实的引力实在是太沉重了。
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英语交流非常重视,或者说是非常重要的一个环节就是肢体语言。英语中有一句谚语是这样说的 :Actions speak louder than words。意思就是肢体语言比口述更有力量。世界上最大的猎头公司Korn/Ferry International的人力资源专家的统计结论也显示,“In a job interview,you will be virtually fully judged within the first 30 seconds, even before you start to talk.”(在工作面试中,你甚至还没有开始讲话,面试官实际上已经在30秒之内对你有了全面的评价。)这其中:visual (what yousee,你所看到的)占55%;audio(what you hear,你所听到的)占38%;content(what is said,你们真正的谈话内容)占7%。
由此可见,语言在交流中扮演着重要的角色。而在与外籍人士交流中有哪些招数呢?
--How abouta break?
当会议因冗长而陷于沉闷、紧张的气氛时,做无意义的僵持是无法获得令人满意的结果的。如果能在不打断对方的情形下提出“How about a break?”(休息一下如何?)对方必能欣然接受,紧张的气氛也立刻得以经解。当你们再回到会议桌时,也能以清晰的思路继续沟通。
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一个台湾人出国,海关要求打开行李检查,发现有七条内裤,奇怪问原因
台湾人回答:" Sunday、Monday、Tuesday ... Saturday "
官员明白是一天一条。
接着来了个法国人,官员要求打开行李检查发现有五条内裤,奇怪问原因
法国人回答:" Monday、Tuesday、Wednesday、Thursday、Friday "
星期六,日如何? NO WEAR.
官员明白法国人浪漫,星期六 . 日是不穿的。
接着来了个印度人,检查发现有十二条内裤,
官员大惑不解,忙问如何?
印度人慢悠悠回答:" January、February、March、April ....... "
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研究人员还发现,骗子的手部活动可能更多、眼神交流频繁,并且会频频点头和皱眉。下面是读文网小编整理的双语阅读:从眼神手势识破撒谎者,欢迎大家阅读!
You might expect a liar to struggle with eye contact, when lying through his teeth. But a study by University of Michigan researchers suggests that liars may look their questioners in the eye more often than people telling the truth. People who are lying also wave both hands around far more than those who are being honest.
你可能会认为,骗子撒谎时眼神会乱瞟。但是密歇根大学的一项研究调查显示:与讲实话的人相比,骗子看质问者眼睛的次数更多。正在撒谎的人挥手次数也远比诚实的人多。
Those who were lying were found more likely to have animated hand movements, make strong eye contact, nod their heads, and scowl. Researchers also found that liars were more likely to say “um” and to use pronouns that distanced themselves from the action, such as “he”or “she”rather than “I”or “we.”
研究人员还发现,骗子的手部活动可能更多、眼神交流频繁,并且会频频点头和皱眉。此外,撒谎的人更喜欢用“嗯”以及一些撇清关系的代词,比如“她”和“他”,而不是“我”或者“我们”。
The same gestures were also used by some people telling the truth, but to a lesser extent: 25% of truthful people gestured with both hands, compared to 40% of liars. Sixty percent of truthful people looked directly at the questioner, compared to 70% of liars.
当然,讲真话的人也会做类似的手势,但人数较少,只占25%左右;与之相比,撒谎者中做这种手势的占到40%。诚实的人中有60%的人会直视质问者,而骗子中,该比例则占到70%。
The researchers believe their work could be useful for security agents and juries, but of course it’s far from foolproof. It’s also impossible to know for sure whether the courtroom verdicts are right, and if the “liars” being examined are definitely being dishonest. This is a problem for all lie detection; Polygraph tests, which measure stress in response to questions, have similarly variable results. Though they have roughly 85% accuracy when testing guilty people, some polygraph tests have just 56% accuracy for innocent people.
研究者们认为,这项成果可以帮助保安和法官,但依旧做不到高度准确。当然,想要彻底弄明白法庭审判是否公正,或者正在受审的撒谎者是否真的在说谎,这根本不可能。对所有的谎言测试来说,这都是个问题。测谎仪(通过测试受审者的压力)的结果也是多变的。即使测谎仪在测试犯罪人员时的准确率有85%,但对于无辜的人,测谎仪的准确率只有56%。
The truth is, we all behave slightly differently when we’re dishonest, and there’s no definitive telltale sign that unmasks all liars. But the University of Michigan research can help build a picture of dishonesty.
事实是,撒谎时,我们表现的都会略有不同,并没有绝对的迹象能够使我们揭露骗子。但密歇根大学的这项研究依旧可以帮我们构建一幅撒谎者的画像。
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在美国无害的某些手势在国外表达的意思是完全不同的(甚至是有攻击性的)。当你在国外旅行时,别做这10个手势!在某些国家用食指和拇指绕成一个圈是不好的。例如,在法国,这表示“零”或者“毫无价值”。在委内瑞拉,土耳其和巴西,这是一个粗俗俚语,几乎会得罪所有你对他做这个手势的人。
想向酒保处点两杯啤酒或在英国、爱尔兰、澳大利亚或新西兰希望有人得到安宁?确保你用你的食指和中指摆出V型,并且手掌向外。否则,就相当于竖中指。
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掌握英语语气词对于英语口语的提高有着非常重要的作用。这些词本身并没有太多的意义,主要起到加强或舒缓语气、给说话者提供思考时间以及引出话题等作用。下面一起来看看老外如何用英语哼哼哈哈吧。
意识到自己犯错时常用到。
Oops! I locked my key in the car.
糟糕!我把钥匙锁车里了。
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下面是读文网小编整理的双语散文:老外直言养儿的回报到底在哪里,欢迎大家阅读!
My wife and I have three small children. Chinese friends often ask why three children, not oneor none: Doesn’t raising three children limit my career in business and in my wife’s case,teaching?
The acronym DINK -- double income, no kids -- originated in the US in the 1960s. Fearingthat children might constrain their freedom, married working women began to avoidpregnancy; the result was many busy, prosperous young DINK couples. This choice was notirrational. After all, nowadays retired people can live on their pensions and savings, so they areno longer compelled to depend on their offspring in old age. And a child is undeniably anexpensive proposition: so much time and money are required. Why bother having one? It ishard to condemn those who opt out of parenthood. And in China their decisions are perfectlyin keeping with the drive to limit population growth.
Yet few couples with children would agree that they were stupid to become parents. Mostare very happy that they have had the experience of witnessing a child grow to maturity. Ababy enters the world with a mind like blank paper, and gradually he or she acquires the abilityto think, to talk and finally to communicate easily. Isn’t there something magical about it?When you see the process happening before your very eyes, you feel a happiness like no other.
A Chinese DINK said to me recently, "If you didn’t have three children, you could go to a baror the cinema with your wife on weekends -- how unrestrained and romantic that would be!"But I would say that no matter how wonderful Hollywood films or Broadway performances are,watching them is far less interesting than seeing my extrovert of a daughter sing and dance. Ifit’s true that there are rewards to be gotten from having children, then surely the happiness ofseeing them grow up is the greatest. Another Chinese friend of mine complained: " I providedthe funds for my child to go to college and then off to America for a master’s degree, but sofar I haven’t gotten any rewards out of playing parent." To him I would say that the rewardswere there all along -- for any parent open to the wonder of seeing a child begin to speak, orsurprise us with a new word used for the first time.
But this is a happiness that can be felt only after you become a parent; there’s noappreciating it otherwise. However, who begets a child out of curiosity to see him or her growup? None of my friends had this in mind when they or their wife got pregnant. For some thepregnancy was unexpected. Others had parents eager to have grandchildren. A few said theyhad children because a person’s life would be incomplete without one. Some said that therewere millions and millions of children in the world and they just wanted to see what theirs wouldbe like. And some said that having a child can bring stability to a troubled marriage -- but isthat really true? I myself didn’t give it much thought. I just assumed it was the natural thing todo, and since my wife enjoyed big, cheerful, lively families, we went ahead and had three kids.No regrets.
I know my words won’t change any minds. What DINKs say is obviously true: childrenreally do require lots of parental energy and money. Just watch a mother bring a sick child to ahospital; you can see the tension, the worry, and all the self-control it takes to seem calm andreassuring. No, raising a child is not easy. The happiness of seeing a child grow, in contrast, islargely in the mind of the parents, and other people cannot so readily perceive it. Indeed, if Iwere not writing on this subject for the BeijingYouthDaily, I would be very unlikely to goaround telling all and sundry how happy I am to be the father of my trio. Little wonder, then,that so many people without children believe parenthood is all work and no fun.
I repeat: each individual has his or her own reasons for wanting or not wanting children,and his or her own happiness to build. The saddest people are those who have children butcome to regret it, for whatever reason. Regretful parents are usually closed to family happiness.And without the happiness, all that remain are the burdens. This kind of family is frequentlyrocked by conflict, and divorce often ends the story. So any couple who want a child shouldfirst be confident that their marriage is sound. Children deserve better than to be the victimsof marital crisis.
(本文作者是美国华裔,现在北京工作。他的三个孩子分别是5岁、3岁和1岁。)
我和妻子有三个小孩,中国朋友常问我们,为什么要三个孩子———而不是一个或根本不要?养育三个孩子会不会影响我俩事业的发展(我经商,妻子是教师)?
丁克家庭(夫妻二人都工作但没有孩子的英文缩写)起源于上个世纪六十年代的美国。由于担心孩子会限制自己的自由,结了婚的职业女性开始避孕,结果是出现了许多忙忙碌碌而事业成功的丁克夫妇。这种选择并非不理性。要知道,如今退休后可以靠养老金和积蓄过日子,而不再像过去那样,老时必须依靠子女。再说,养育孩子是件高投入的事,这一点无可否认———需要付出那么多的时间和金钱。那何必费心劳神要孩子呢?我们很难指责那些决定不当父母的夫妇。在中国,他们的决定与实行控制人口增长的国策是完全一致的。
不过,在有孩子的夫妇中,很少有人赞成他们当了父母是犯傻的观点,绝大多数都非常高兴自己能亲眼目睹一个孩子走向成熟。一个婴儿来到人世,其头脑就像一张白纸,渐渐地,他(她)能思考了,能说话了,最后,能与人不费力气地交流了,这难道不是很神奇吗?当这个神奇的过程就发生在眼前,你会感到一种无可比拟的快乐。
最近,一位中国“丁克”对我说:“你要是没有三个孩子,周末与太太去酒吧或电影院———那多自在、多浪漫啊!”可我要说,无论好莱坞的影片、百老汇的表演多么精彩,都远不如看我那活泼外向的小女儿又唱又跳有趣。如果说养育孩子确有回报的话,看着他们长大所感受到的乐趣就是最大的回报。另一位中国朋友向我抱怨道:“我供孩子上了大学,又供他去美国读硕士学位,可到现在为止我还没从为人父母中得到任何回报。”对他的抱怨,我会说,回报早就有啦———任何乐于看孩子开口说话、或看孩子第一次用了某个词语而引起惊喜的父母,都能获得这种回报。
但这种快乐只有当你当了父母之后才能感受到,否则不可能真正体会。可是,有谁要孩子是出于想看孩子怎么长大的好奇心呢?在我的朋友当中,没有一个是这样想的。有人怀孕是不期而至,有的是由于自己的父母急于想抱孙子,有的说要孩子是因为没有孩子人生就不完整,有的说世上有亿万儿童,就想知道自己的孩子是什么样,还有的说,孩子能让有问题的婚姻稳定———果真如此吗?我本人倒是没太考虑要孩子的理由,只是觉得这是一件自然而然的事,而且我妻子喜欢活泼欢快的大家庭,于是就要了三个孩子。我们乐在其中,丝毫不悔。
我知道我的话不会让任何人改变想法。丁克们说的显然是实情:孩子需要父母付出大量精力和金钱。看看一位母亲带孩子去看病的情形吧:她紧张,忧虑,还要自我克制以显得镇静,让孩子安心。是的,养育孩子绝非易事。与这种人人看得见的操劳相比,看着一个孩子成长感受到的快乐存在于父母的心中,别人无法轻易感受到。实际上,要不是为《北京青年报》就这一题目写文章,我不会逢人便说做三个孩子的父亲是多么幸福,而那么多没有孩子的人认为当父母就只意味着辛劳而无任何乐趣也是不足为怪的。
说来说去,要孩子还是不要孩子,每个人都有自己的理由,有自己所追求的快乐。最为不幸的是那些有了孩子但出于某种原因却又后悔的人。这些后悔的父母往往不能感受到家庭快乐。而没有了快乐,剩下的就全是负担了。这种家庭常常会被冲突所动摇,往往以离婚收场。所以,任何想要孩子的夫妇首先应确信其婚姻是稳固的。孩子不该成为婚姻危机的牺牲品,他们理应拥有更好的生活。
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下面是读文网小编整理的去老外家做客的商务礼仪, 希望对大家有帮助。
1) With a Lady
Always allow the lady to precede you in places where one has to go before the other except in the following case: when getting off a street car, train, bus, or out of an automobile; when going up stair; when opening a heavy door. When you are walking along the street with a lady, always walk on the outside.
2) At a Dance
If you wish to dance with a certain lady, go to her, bow, and say:" May I have the pleasure of a dance?"
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