为您找到与明白相关的共10个结果:
摘录:你的公司不会爱你。公司是没有感情的。你是可替代的。随时准备好自己的“跳伞”。
当你已经二十几岁了,你会明白自己已经长大了,需要变得成熟了。别人都不会再当你是个孩子了,而是会把你当做成年人一样对待。这是你应该要面对的事实。你越早学会生活里最难的课程,你就能越早地过上光彩成功的生活。里奇· 塔特姆在quora上分享了他希望自己在20岁的时候就已经能够明白的那些最不容易的事情。
When you’re a 20 something, you know you need to be mature because you’ve grown up. You’re seen as an adult, not a kid any more. It’s reality, and you really should face it. The faster you learn the most difficult life lessons, the sooner you can lead a great and successful life. Rich Tatum shared the most difficult things he wished he knew when he was 20 on quora:
1.The company does not love you. It has no heart. You are replaceable. Keep your parachute handy.
你的公司不会爱你。公司是没有感情的。你是可替代的。随时准备好自己的“跳伞”。
2.You are not your job. You are not your bankroll. You are not the sum of your possessions.
你的工作不是你的全部。你的工资单也不是你的全部。你更不是你所有财产的总和。
3.The friendships you nurture will have a greater effect on your life than where you work or what you earn.
你精心栽培的友情对你的人生有很大影响,甚至超过了你工作的地方和学习到的知识。
4.Love hurts, but not as much as not loving.
爱人会有伤心的时候,但是不爱更伤心。
5.Few decisions will ever shape your future life more than who you choose to marry. To marry well, you must choose well.
你选择和谁结婚是决定你未来人生的最重要的决定,没有之一。和对的人结婚,前提是你要做出对的选择。
6.Love is a commitment.
爱是一种承诺。
7.Believe it or not, passions grow out of your values. Make early, wise choices to value what (and who) is good, trustworthy, and praiseworthy.
不管你信不信,激情来源于你的价值观。早一点做出明智的选择,明确对自己来说什么或者谁才是好的、值得信赖的以及值得称赞的。
8.Integrity preserved is honor won.
保持完整的人格就是为自己赢得的荣耀。
9.Rejoice in your health. It fades fast.
为自己健康的体魄感到高兴,因为健康容易很快消逝。
10.Find a passion. Pick a hobby, own it: photography, juggling—whatever. Get your 10K hours of perfect practice in early and change your life.
找到让你感觉到激情的事情。选择一个爱好,拥有它:摄影、杂技或者随便什么。早点享受犹如纯10k金般珍贵的时间,从此改变你的生活。
11.Don’t bother comparing yourself to others—this only leads to heartbreak, anger, and disappointment.
不要与他人比较——这只会让你心碎、生气或者失望。
12.Most disappointments grow from unmet expectations. Set realistic expectations for yourself, based on your strengths, then strive to exceed them.
失望大多来源于未能满足的期望。根据自己的长处,给自己设置一些实际的期望,然后努力超越它们。
13.Don’t drive others to meet expectations they’ve committed to — lead, inspire, and help them do it.
不要逼着别人去完成他们已经在努力完成的目标——引导、鼓励而且帮助他们完成目标。
14.Don’t set expectations for others when they haven’t or cannot commit to them.
如果别人还没有决定或者没有能力完成一些目标,那就不要给他们设置这些目标。
15.Don’t complain. Either change your situation, learn to cope, or change your perspective.
不要抱怨。你可以努力改变自己的处境、学习解决问题或者转换一下自己的视角。
16.Don’t worry about making big bucks out of the gate, worry first about doing whatever you have to do excellently.
不要急着一出校门口就要赚大把的钞票,先专注于自己可以出色地完成的事情。
17.Little stuff matters—even in lowly jobs. The boss notices and even if not, your peers and colleagues do.
细节很重要——即使是在简单的工作中。你的老板会注意的,即使老板没有注意到,你的同学或同事也会注意到的。
18.Ultimately, privacy is a myth: God sees everything. The cloud records everything. NSA files everything. So, live transparently and don’t waste useless energy hiding failures.
最后,真正的秘密是不存在的:上帝看得到所有的事情。云朵记录着一切。国家安全局把一切记录在案。所以,请坦荡地生活,不要浪费力气去掩盖失败。
19.Don’t look down on others because they don’t have what you didn’t earn—your intellect, your beauty, and your culture of birth are undeserved gifts…be humble.
不要瞧不起别人因为他们只是没有你天生的一些东西——你的智力、你的美貌、你出生的环境等,这些都是你本来不该得到的馈赠。所以,谦虚点吧。
20.Failure is an opportunity: no great man or woman ever achieved significance without great failures to learn from.
失败同样是一个机会:伟大的男人或者女人都是从巨大的失败中吸取教训后取得伟大成就的。
21.Never withhold an apology when it’s merited. Deliver it quickly, sincerely, and personally—before resentment festers.
该道歉时就道歉。道歉的时间要尽快、态度要真诚,还要亲自去道歉——趁怨恨还没有滋生的时候。
22.You don’t need to nurture old guilt when you’re forgiven. But remembering the shame can help you avoid repeats.
如果别人已经原谅你了,你就没有必要再觉得愧疚了。但是记着,记住羞愧可以让你避免重蹈覆辙。
23.Mere belief in anything signifies little more than assent. It’s trust and behavior that reveal where convictions lie.
仅仅是相信一切也不过是一种附和。真正的信念来源于信赖和行动。
24.The main thing you need to do quickly is to stop doing things quickly. Trade hurry for calm, confidence, and precision.
你要尽快做的事情主要就是不要再快速地做事情了。把快速转变成冷静、自信以及准确。
25.Everybody needs an editor. Everybody.
每个人都需要一个编辑。每个人!
26.Get your work done first so you can play without guilt. Even better, make work play and the fun never ends!
先把工作做完,这样你才能没有负担地玩了。更好的做法是,把工作当做一种乐趣,这样你的快乐就无穷无尽了。
27.If you want to develop your passion and gift, stop worrying about the things you do poorly. Go with your strengths!
如果你想要发展自己的激情和天赋,不要为自己做得不好的事情焦虑了,专注于自己的长项!
28.Avoid fights. Seriously. Avoid them like a plague: nobody wins in a fight, even if you walk away unscathed. But when a fight picks you, leave everything on the mat and give it your all. Hold nothing back.
避免斗争。说真的。就像躲瘟疫一样躲避斗争:没有人在一场斗争中胜出,即使你毫发无损地离开了。但是,如果你被迫迎战,放下一切,全力出击,毫不保留!
29.If you’re bored, you’re doing it wrong.
如果你觉得无聊,那就是你做事情的方式不对。
30.The skills that will help your career most are the abilities to assimilate, communicate, and persuade. Keep learning.
最能帮助你的职业的是这些技巧:消化吸收新知识的能力、交流能力还有说服他人的能力。不断学习!
31.Nothing in this life—no pain, no agony, no failure—compares to the eternal joy of Heaven. Live in light of eternity.
生活里没有什么比得上天堂里永恒的快乐——疼痛、痛苦或者失败都是值得的。活在永恒的快乐中吧!
32.Protect your joy. Nothing is easier to lose by over-thinking, overanalyzing, and second-guessing. On the other hand, always consider the long-term consequences of your choices: stupid decisions made in the moment can rob you of years of joy and happiness.
保护你的快乐。如果你想得太多、分析太多或者猜疑太多,那就很容易失败。另一方面,永远记得考虑你的选择所带来的长期后果:仓促作出的愚蠢决定可能会剥夺你好几年的快乐和幸福。
33.Your purpose in life determines how you frame events. You can maintain your joy in the most dire circumstances if you find meaning for your life. Dig deep.
你生活的目的决定了你组织事情的方式。如果你找到了自己生活的意义,即使是在最糟糕的处境里你也能保持愉悦。深入挖掘吧。
34.It truly matters what you think about. Think well by reading good books, building good, loving relationships, having good conversation, and imitating great people.
你的思想真的很重要。通过读好书、建立美好可爱的恋情、交心的谈话还有模仿很棒的人来让自己的思想有境界。
I’m still learning — in fact I haven’t fully appreciated most of the list I made, myself. And I’m still adding to it. But I’m getting better.
我还在不停地学习——实际上,我还没有完全领会我所列出的清单。而且,我还在补充这个清单。但是,我变得越来越好了!
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摘录:很多人甚至禁止任何人触碰自己的宝贝。这都是可以理解的,当你考虑到经验丰富的吉他手的仪器完美的适合他们,和任何较小的调整可能会破坏他们花了数年时间创建的设置。此外,笨拙的吉他处理可能会导致一些严重的事故,再多的道歉都无济于事。
1. You understand pain is part of success
Most people who have never taken a serious shot at learning to play the guitar are not aware how painful the process can be. Your fingertips blister and chafe. Your wrists, forearms, and shoulders hurt and cramp up. Your back kills you. And yes, after a while, your head can even begin to ache. Still, as time goes by, you overcome the pain and reap new skills that allow you to shred like never before!
你明白痛苦是成功的一部分
大多数人从来没有认真学习弹吉他的人不知道学习吉他是多么痛苦的过程。你的指尖起泡和摩伤。你的手腕、前臂和肩部受损害和抽筋。你的背部会杀死你。是的,一段时间后,你的头甚至会开始疼痛。然而,随着时间的流逝,你克服痛苦和获得新的技能,让你前所未有的撕碎!
2. You see the irony in guitars used as ornaments
你看到吉他用作装饰品的讽刺
Anyone who struggles with gathering enough money for gear like I do will feel the pain of seeing a guitar hung on a wall with no intention of ever using it to play something. A guitar is not a decoration. There is absolutely no reason to leave it hanging on a wall. If you bought it, grab it sometime, and spend some quality time with it. It might become your new best friend.
像我一样为存足够的钱买装备看到墙上挂着的一把吉他会感到的痛苦,从来没有打算使用它玩什么。一把吉他不是装饰物。绝对没有理由把它挂在墙上。如果你买了它,在某个时候拿着它弹,多花一些时间。它可能会成为你的最好的朋友。
3. You are aware of the hardships of being in a band
你意识到组成一支乐队很困难
My friend once said: “Being in a band is like being in relationship with 2-4 people at the same time”. And yes, a band break up is just that, a massive break-up where nobody gets spared of drama. There is an awful lot of talking, bickering, compromising, trash talking, behind the back talking, and all out shouting matches throughout the course of a band’s life. Things get even crazier when money starts to go around. This is why experienced guitarists hone their people skills because they know they are going to need it.
我的朋友曾经说过:“组成一支乐队就像在同时与2 - 4人的恋爱”。是的,一个乐队分开,是没有人能幸免的戏剧。有大量的讨论,争吵,妥协,垃圾话,背后话 ,大声吵吵嚷嚷是一个乐队的生活。事情变得更疯狂当开始需要钱。这就是为什么有经验的吉他手磨练他们的人际交往能力,因为他们知道他们将需要它。
4. You notice when people can’t play in movies or videos
你注意到当人们不能在电影或视频弹
Lil Wayne is the freshest example of that — with an added bonus of having the audacity to let his “solo” really be heard live. We can debate about style until kingdom come, but the fact is that his skill isn’t even basic.He should definitely sit down and practice some more before the next live solo.
李尔.韦恩就是最明显的例子——一个幸运的机会让他“独奏”真的被听到。我们可以讨论风格直到天国来临,但事实是,他甚至不是基本的技能。他应该坐下来和实践在下一个独常来临之前。
5. You know what cable hell means
你知道电缆到底意味着什么
If you have proper gear, you have miles of cables to go along with it. This is where proper “cable hygiene” needs to kick in or you are set on a course for disaster. Imaging playing a gig and losing 5-10 minutes on finding which damn cable stopped working! Now, that’s awkward.
如果你有合适的装备,你有几英里的电缆陪同。这就是正确的电缆卫生需要支付为你的生活带来一场灾难。想象在一个小型演唱会上演奏和失去5-10分钟来查找哪一段电线坏了!现在,这太尴尬。
6. You keep an eye on non-guitarists handling your equipment
你留意非吉他弹奏者处理设备
Some guitarist twitch even when other guitarists mess with their gear — let alone people who never held a guitar. Many even forbid anyone from touching their baby. This is all quite understandable when you take into consideration that experienced guitarists have setup their instruments to fit them perfectly, and any minor adjustments might destroy that setup they spent years creating. Furthermore, clumsy guitar handling can lead to some nasty accidents that no amount of apologies can atone for.
一些其他吉他手甚至会带着吉他一起用膳,更不用说那些从未握过吉他的人。很多人甚至禁止任何人触碰自己的宝贝。这都是可以理解的,当你考虑到经验丰富的吉他手的仪器完美的适合他们,和任何较小的调整可能会破坏他们花了数年时间创建的设置。此外,笨拙的吉他处理可能会导致一些严重的事故,再多的道歉都无济于事。
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现在你知道该用什么英语单词来表达“我明白了!”吗?
最口语的说法是:Got it! Selma, don’t send any guests in this afternoon. I’ll have a long net meeting, alright? 塞尔玛,今天下午不要送任何客人来见我。我有一个很长的网络会议,明白了吗? 这时候你可以说:Yes, I got it. 好的我明白了。对于稍稍正式的要求,你可以以相对正式的语句回答。比如:I clearly understand you now. =我明白你说的意思。或者更加加强语气,你可以说,I understand you. CRYSTAL CLEAR!=我明白你的意思,非常明白!
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摘要:《gentleman》(绅士)是由刘伟德(Victor Lau)、戴爱玲演唱的英文歌曲,首次出现于《爱情公寓4》第4集,歌曲朗朗上口,轻快活泼。是《爱情公寓4》的原创插曲。
I wanna be the one you always can rely on
Be the one to hold you through the night storm
Be the gentleman that you need no matter how long
I'ma fight until we're free, find our freedom from defeat
I wanna honor who you are, not tryna' play on
See the other guys you relied on
They broke your heart but it grew strong
We can be the perfect love song, and watch the skies fall
Wake up in the morning from the night's calm
And see the sunrise while we stand tall
Perfect intuition, you're my angel one I visioned
that I always could envision
To be wifey for my children cuz together we can fly
Forever you and I on this mission
That we call love that define all the wishes
Yea I'm a gentleman for life
Always need for a wife
In this cold world, in this cold world
I'll be the one to catch you when you're falling from the sky
I'll be the one to hold you baby, together we can fly
Baby let's fly, baby you and I
Baby hold on we can make it in time x 2
I never told you how I love you, kept my heart on the other side
Looking for a safer ride, easier to say goodby
So bad when I want it but in front when I lose it
So I turn to the music
And you turn to your phone and you wish what we had
will remain in our home from the names we recall
Never was a gentleman, making scenes at the mall
Just for the little things, always was so ignorant
Never thought the love that you bring was the best for me
And you're smothering me, I'm the loser in this tragedy
In the ugly side, gently blinded me
No Romeo inside of me, to begin will be proud
In my head would be time patience through the flight
On this stage we call life, we can glide you and I
Complicated from the start, so we aiming for the stars
Start with the sentiment, I'm a gentleman
I'll be the one to catch you when you're falling from the sky
I'll be the one to hold you baby, together we can fly
Baby let's fly, baby you and I
Baby hold on we can make it in time x 2[3]
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摘要:当你想追寻值得做的事情并准备学习最好的经验时,生活并不是简单的。大多数的时候,我们从老者和智者那里学习经验,因为他们也曾经和我们一样年轻过,也曾做过我们现在做的事情。
Life is not easy when you are pursuing something worthwhile and ready to learn from the best experiences. Most of the time, we learn the lessons from the old and wise as they have already been where we are and have done what we do. But we hardly take their advice in advance. We never think of this as a precaution. We always learn it from our life and rarely does life teach us something in a easy way. It always takes tests and then fails us to learn anything worthwhile. Here are five life lessons which people will learn the hard way in majority of cases.
当你想追寻值得做的事情并准备学习最好的经验时,生活并不是简单的。大多数的时候,我们从老者和智者那里学习经验,因为他们也曾经和我们一样年轻过,也曾做过我们现在做的事情。但是我们很难提前采取他们的建议。我们从未把这当做预防措施。我们总是从自己的生活中去学习,而生活也很少用简单的方式来教我们。它总是测试我们,让我们通过失败来学习有价值的东西。下面的这五个教训,大部分的情况下人们都是费一番苦功才会学到。
1.It takes consistent time and effort to be anexpert in any area.
无论想成为哪个领域的专家,都需要付出同样的时间和努力。
This is the first and foremost thing to keep in mind.People usually get discouraged when it takes moretime than they thought it will. One thing to keep inmind is that people refer only to people who havealready achieved what you want to be, which most people fail to do. They look at otherunsuccessful people and apply those criteria to them even before they take action. Look at anysuccessful person and you’ll notice one thing common in all of them. They took time to learnand mastered their craft like no one else. There is no elevator to success; you have to takethe stairs.
这是你要记住的第一件事,也是最重要的一件事。当人们觉得所用的时间比预想的要长时,通常都会垂头丧气。但要记住一点,人们只会提起已经取得成功的人,而大部分的人都以失败告终。人们看着其他没成功的人,自己还未行动,就把那些准则用到他们身上。随便找出一个成功的人,你就会发现成功人士的共同点。他们都比常人努力,拿时间去学习并掌握技能。通往成功的路上没有电梯,你只能去一级一级爬楼梯。
2.You don’t have to live your life in a waysociety wants you to.
你不必以社会想让你生活的方式去生活
Decades of old beliefs, superstitions and rituals arebeing performed these days and are followed blindlywithout questioning their rationale. Parentssometimes force their children to select a career theydon’t want because other children have selected thatcareer. Girls are made to follow some rituals in their family which makes no sense to them at all.Worst of all, people follow them without even asking. There is no harm in old rituals and beliefsbut when you pursue them before your interest, sooner or later you’ll realize that you shouldfirst do what you think is right.
几十年的旧习、迷信和规矩最近又开始风行,人们盲目地跟风而不去质疑这样做的理论依据。父母们有时会强迫孩子选择孩子不喜欢的专业就因为其他孩子选择了那个专业。女孩们在家里要守一些对她们来说无任何意义的规矩。最糟糕的是,人们连问都不问,就这样做。老规矩和旧习俗并无什么害处,但当你在感兴趣之前就去做时,不久你就会意识到你应该先做自己认为是正确的事情。
3.We don’t care about the things we get easily.
我们不在乎容易得到的东西
This is true in all the areas of life. Take health forexample. Very few people take their health seriously.They know that if their health is lost, they won’t behappy, still they eat junk food and never exercise,keep accumulating fat and keep spending on weightloss programs. Still nothing works. Why? Becausethey don’t take their health seriously and the real reason behind that is they have got it forfree. We spend thousands on cars and take care of them nicely. Imagine what would have beenthe price of human body if we had to pay for it? And then imagine how well we would take careof it if we had paid a huge amount of money to get our body.
这一点放之四海而皆准。就拿健康为例吧。很少有人把健康当回事儿。他们知道当他们不健康时,会不开心,但是他们还是会吃垃圾食品,不去锻炼,不断积攒脂肪,又不断去减肥。但仍是毫无效果。为什么?因为他们不拿自己的身体当回事,因为他们没有付出任何代价就拥有了身体。我们在车上花了成千上万元,所以会好好保管车。假如人的身体是有价的,那我们得付出多少钱呢?然后再想一下,如果我们得付出很大一笔钱才能得到自己的身体,我们会怎样对待自己的身体呢?
4.In a world where everyone is trying to be likesomeone else, it takes great amount of courageto take the road less traveled.
在一个大家都想成为别人的世界中,需要很大勇气才能走少有人走的路。
In our whole life, we are always asking ten peoplebefore taking any step. We always want to validatethat we are sure and do not make any mistake. Weare too scared to fail hence, we follow the same path that everyone suggests, do the samething everyone does, take the same career path everyone takes, wear the same clotheseveryone wears, and hang out with the same people we work with. Why? Because we arescared. But when you get bored of life, you realize that you are not meant to do what everyonedoes and that your destiny is different than anyone else’s out there in the world. But the pricewe pay to realize this is high because it takes a tremendous amount of guts to follow your owntrail by listening to your heart.
在我们的生活中,我们总是在行动前问10个人的看法。我们总是想确保这样做是可以的,这样做是不会犯任何错误的。我们太害怕失败了,所以我们按着别人建议的道路去走,做别人做的事情,走别人走的职业路线,穿和别人一样的衣服,和同事一起出去玩。为什么?因为我们太害怕了。但是,当你觉得生活无聊时,你会意识到,你不该去做别人做的事情,你的命运和世界上其他人的命运都不同。但是我们意识到这一点所需要花费的代价太高了,因为这需要大量的勇气去倾听自己的内心来走自己的道路。
5.You have to break the rules sometimes.
有时你需要打破规则。
We follow rules so that things are in order and noone is disturbed unnecessarily. This is true in caseof traffic and other company rules but when it comesto your life, there are rules made by people who arescared to do something apart from their routine andtherefore they made rules to prevent others doingso. But when time passes by and you think you are not being directed towards your goal andthese so called rules are your biggest obstacles, BREAK THEM. Sometimes, we need to be boldand act courageously.
我们遵守规则,这样事情就会有序,没人会受到不必要的干扰。这适用于交通规则和公司的一些规则。但是在你的生活中,有些规则是由一些除了日常活动外什么也不敢做的人设定的,他们设定规则来阻止其他人这样做。但是随着时间的流逝,你认为自己没有朝着目标前进,那些所谓的规则是你最大的障碍。那就打破它们吧。有时,我们需要大胆一点,需要勇敢地行动起来。
After all, life lessons are always learned the hard way. However, if you are smart enough to learn early and wish not to waste your precious time learning them the hard way, learn them now and apply it to your life as soon as possible.
毕竟,生活中的教训总是需费一番苦功才能学到。然而,如果你足够聪明想早点儿学到它们,不想把宝贵的时间浪费在费劲去学这些教训上,那么你现在就可以学习它们,并可以尽早把它们用到你的生活中。
在我做了一场以快乐为主题的报告之后,一位女士听众站起来说:“我丈夫也能来听这个报告就好了。”她解释说:“尽管我非常爱他,可是同一个不快乐的人做夫妻真不是件容易的事情。”这位女士用语言表达出了我一直在探索的一个道理---认真对待快乐,既可有利于自己,也可有利于他人。我告诉她,我们每个人为了我们的配偶、我们的孩子、我们的朋友,都应当尽可能快乐。
我不是一个特别快乐的孩子,像大多数十几岁的少年一样,我在苦中求乐。然而,有一天,我突然意识到,我是在贪图省事。任何人都可以不开心,这不需要勇气和努力。真正的成就在于努力奋斗以获得快乐。对许多人来说,我们必须努力去争取快乐这一概念像是一件新鲜事,因为我们以为,快乐是一种感觉,是我们碰到好事的结果,对于它我们很难控制。然而,事实恰好相反:在很大程度上我们可以控制快乐。这是一场需要奋争的战斗,而不是一种坐等的感觉。要想获得幸福的生活,需要克服一些障碍,其中的三个是:
与别人相比 我们大多数人把自己与我们认为比我们更快乐的任何人相比---亲戚、熟人,或者经常是我们不大了解的人。有一次,我遇到一个年轻男子,他给我的印象是特别成功和快乐。他说他爱他漂亮的妻子和他们的3个女儿,并说在他喜欢的城市里做广播脱口秀节目的主持人令他感到快乐。我记得我当时认为他是属于少数一切都顺顺当当的幸运儿。之后我们开始谈论因特网。他告诉我,他对因特网心存感激,因为他可以在网上查找医治多发性硬化症的信息---这种可怕的疾病正在折磨着他的妻子。我当时觉得自己像个傻瓜,还以为他的生活中没有不快乐的事情。
想像中的完美无缺 几乎我们所有的人都想像生活应是什么样。问题自然是人们的工作、配偶以及孩子都很难达到想像中的理想标准。这儿有我自身的例子:我们家里从来没有人离过婚。我本以为婚姻应持续终生。所以,当妻子与我婚后5年,儿子3岁我们离婚时,我的世界崩溃了。在我眼里,我是个失败者。我再婚后向妻子吐露,我摆脱不了“我的家庭生活是失败的”这一感觉。她问我,我们现在的家(包括她与前夫生的女儿和我的儿子)怎么了?我不得不承认,除了只能一半时间跟儿子(我和前妻共同监护孩子)在一起的痛苦之外,我们的家庭生活很愉快。“那你为什么不庆贺这种生活呢?”她问道。那就是我决定要做的。可是,我首先得摆脱“十全十美”的家庭这种幻想。
“缺瓦”综合征 一种毁坏快乐的有效办法是:只看某事的坏处,甚至注意到最细小的缺陷。这就像看瓦房顶一样,注意力集中于那缺瓦的地方。正如一位秃顶的先生告诉我的那样:“无论何时我进入一个房间,我所看到的都是头发。”当你确定了你丢失的那片瓦是什么时,探究一下获得这片瓦是否真的会让你快乐,之后做下列三件事之一:取回那片瓦;用一片不同的瓦替换它;或者忘了它,把注意力集中在你生活中那些未丢失的瓦上。我们都认识一些人,他们过着相对安逸的生活却根本不快乐。
我们也认识一些人,他们经历了巨大的痛苦却往往仍然是快乐的。第一大奥秘是感恩的心境。所有快乐的人是有感恩之心的。没有感恩之心的人不可能快乐。我们往往认为,不快乐会导致人们抱怨,但是更正确的说法是,抱怨导致人们不快乐。
第二大奥秘是,要认识到快乐是别的事情的副产品,其最显而易见的来源是那些赋予我们生活以目的的追求---任何事情,从研究昆虫到打棒球。我们的激情越多,我们有可能体验的快乐就越多。最后,要相信有一种永恒的东西超越我们,我们的存在有着某种更广大的意义,这种信念能帮助我们更加快乐。我们需要一种精神信仰或者一种人生哲学。不管你的哲学是什么,它应该包括这个自明之理:如果你决心去发现每种情况的积极面(事实上都有),你就会得福;如果你决心去发现其消极面,你就会遭殃。如对快乐本身一样,这主要取决于你自己。
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摘要:超过60%的美国人表示,在一段成功的婚姻中,照料家务起着关键性的作用。如果双方都专门负责各自拿手的家务,那么夫妻双方可以节省出大量的共同时间。
Contrary to what fairy tales may tell you,relationships take work.
So we collected some of the best social sciencefindings about what makes them last.
和童话故事描绘的截然相反,感情是需要经营的。
我们收集了一些有关经营感情的最佳社科研究发现。
1. If you wait until you're 23 to commit, you'reless likely to get divorced.
如果等到23岁再考虑结婚,离婚几率更小。
A 2014 University of Pennsylvania study found that Americans who cohabitate or get married atage 18 have a 60% divorce rate, whereas people who waited until the more mature age of 23have a divorce rate of about 30%.
2014年宾夕法尼亚大学的一项研究发现,18岁就同居或结婚的美国人离婚率为60%,然而那些等到23岁更成熟的时候才选择结婚的离婚率约为30%。
2. The “in love” phase lasts about a year.
“热恋”阶段通常持续一年左右。
The honeymoon phase with its “high levels of passionate love” and “intense feelings ofattraction and ecstasy, as well as an idealization of one's partner”, doesn't last forever,according to Monmouth University psychologist Gary W. Lewandowski Jr.
蒙莫斯大学心理学家盖里•W•勒万多维斯基表示,充满“高度激情的爱”、“强烈的吸引力和狂喜的感觉,同时对配偶理想化”的蜜月期并不会永远持续下去。
3. Eventually you realize that you're not one person.
最终你会意识到你不是一个人。
Once you start living together, you realize that you have different priorities and tolerances-like,for instance, what does or doesn't constitute a mess.
一旦你们开始生活在一起,你会意识到,你们有不同的优先级和容忍度,比如说对于脏乱的定义会有所不同。
4. If you get excited for your partner's good news, you'll have a better relationship.
如果你为伴侣的好消息感到振奋,你会拥有更好的婚姻。
In multiple studies, couples that actively celebrated good news (rather than actively orpassively dismissed it) have had a higher rate of relationship well-being.
多项研究发现,相对主动或被动地不予理会彼此好消息的夫妻而言,积极地庆祝好消息的夫妻婚姻幸福感更高。
5. The happiest marriages are between best friends.
最幸福的婚姻发生在最好的朋友之间。
A 2014 National Bureau of Economic research study concluded that friendship could help explainthe causal relationship between marriage and life satisfaction.
美国国家经济研究局2014年的一项研究显示,友谊能够解释婚姻和生活满足感之间的因果关系。
6. The closer a couple is in age, the less likely they are to get divorced.
夫妻年龄越相近,离婚的可能性越小。
An Emory University study found that couples with a five-year age difference were 18% morelikely to divorce, and ones with a 10-year difference were 39% more likely.
埃默里大学的一项研究发现,年龄相差5岁的夫妻离婚几率比一般的高出18%,年龄相差10岁的夫妻离婚率则要高出39%。
7. Resentment builds quickly in couples that don't tackle chores together.
没有共同承担家务的夫妻,心中怨恨积累迅速。
Over 60% of Americans say that taking care of chores plays a crucial role in having a successfulmarriage. You'll save a lot of collective time if each person specializes in the chores they're bestat.
超过60%的美国人表示,在一段成功的婚姻中,照料家务起着关键性的作用。如果双方都专门负责各自拿手的家务,那么夫妻双方可以节省出大量的共同时间。
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你知道不明白的英文单词是什么吗?下面一起来看看吧。
不明白
我不明白她最后那句话的意思。
I don't see the point of her last remark.
她不明白作记录的重要性。
She is rather dim about the importance of keeping records.
我一点也不明白你在说些什么。
I haven't the slightest idea what you are talking about.
她说话含含糊糊,我怎么也听不明白她想说些什么。
She is so vague that I can never understand what she is trying to say.
我不明白我为什么应该------。
I do not see why I should. . . .
你不明白这些事情,”她母亲说。
Thou understandest not these things, " said her mother.
我不明白怎么会认为定个上限就会有这种作用。
I do not know why the ceiling should be expected to have that effect.
又对他们说,你们不明白这比喻吗。这样怎能明白一切的比喻呢。
And he said unto them, Know ye not this parable? and how then will ye know allparables?
我不明白你们为什么对这件事感到如此好笑。
I fail to see why you find it so amusing.
然而搬运工却不明白我的话。
The porter, however, could not understand me.
老师什麽都解释了,尽管如此,她还是不明白。
The teacher explained everything, but even then she do not understand.
听众也许能明白你讲的东西,但是他们搞不明白你为什么要跟大家说这些。
The audience may understand what you've said, but they may not understandwhy you said it.
即使是现在,我也不明白。
I do not see, even now.
让我不明白的是一些人怎么就那么依赖上乘船作为他们唯一的出游方式呢。
What I don’t understand is how some people rely on this as their only source oftraveling.
这让我母亲非常感动,但在那时候我却不明白为什么。
This touched my mother, but at the time I couldn’t see why.
他们不明白盈利能力为什么很重要。
They do not see why profitability matters.
我不明白为什么他们支持他——没人知道为什么。
I do not know why they supported him and why—nobody knows why.
耶稣对他们说,你们也是这样不明白吗。
And he saith unto them, Are ye so without understanding also?
思嘉弄不明白,既然他的心对她的心是那样陌生,那么为什么他竟会迷住她呢?
Why he should have captivated Scarlett when his mind was a stranger to hers shedid not know.
他们不明白,为什么腐败官员能从国外的人权标准中获得好处。
They do not see why corrupt officials should benefit from foreign standards onhuman rights.
“我一点也不明白这种东西,”她说。
I don’t understand this at all, " she said.
是否发展中国家的决策者们已经意识到这一问题但还不明白该怎样去做,或者他们还没能完全认识到这一问题的严重性?
Is it that policymakers in developing countries are aware of the problem but don'tknow what to do, or are they not as aware as they should be?
小孩子和青少年有时会做一些危险而愚蠢的事情,那是因为他们不明白或没有考虑到事情的后果。
Children and teenagers sometimes do dangerous and foolish things, and that is because they do not understand or THINK about the consequences.
_们不明白的是,上帝离开他们的距离,比起他们离开上帝的距离更大。
Christians have not yet understood that God is farther removed from them thanthey are from Him.
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你知道明白的英文是什么吗?一起来学习一下吧!
明白的英文:clear
明白的英文:obvious
1. It was clear Cohen didn't understand what Millard was driving at.
看得出科恩并不明白米勒德想说什么。
2. The rabbis try to steer clear of political questions.
拉比们努力避开政治问题。
3. Dig over any ground that is clear of crops and plants.
把没种庄稼和植物的土地都深翻一遍。
4. Stewart was trying to clear a path for the stretcher.
斯图尔特在努力给担架开路。
5. It seems clear that he has no reasonable alternative.
他没有其他合适的选择,这一点似乎很清楚。
6. It was not yet clear how the rudder had sheared off.
还不清楚船舵是如何断裂的。
7. Our therapists will show you how to clear your mind of worries.
我们的治疗师会教你如何消除心中的忧虑。
8. Whatever its obscurities, the poem was clear on at least one count.
这首诗再怎么晦涩,至少有一点是清楚的。
9. It is really not clear just why he became a Socialist.
他为何成为社会党人的确切原因实际上还不清楚。
10. They made it clear who is now running the show.
他们清楚地表明了现在是谁在掌控一切。
11. After shampooing, always rinse the hair several times in clear water.
每次用完洗发剂后都要用清水将头发冲洗几次。
12. Interestingly, it is not clear which solution the prime minister favors.
耐人寻味的是,现在还不清楚首相支持哪个解决方案。
13. My own view is absolutely clear. What I did was right.
我自己的观点非常清楚。我做的事是正确的。
14. It is quite clear that we were firing in self defence.
事实很清楚,我们开枪是出于自卫。
15. People use scientific terms with no clear idea of their meaning.
人们使用科学术语,但并非很清楚其含义。
1. The ideological divisions between the parties aren't always obvious.
政党之间的意识形态界线并不总是泾渭分明的。
2. She persevered in her idea despite obvious objections raised by friends.
虽然朋友们明确反对,她还是坚持己见。
3. It's obvious that you need more time to think.
显然你需要更多时间来思考。
4. She's made it obvious that she's appalled by me.
她坦言被我吓着了。
5. As an exercise in stating the obvious, this could scarcely be faulted.
这说的都是些显而易见的事情,几乎不可能出错。
6. This is an obvious sop to the large Irish-American audience.
这明显是讨好广大爱尔兰裔美国观众的一种手段。
7. There are obvious distinctions between the two wine-making areas.
两个酿酒地区之间有着显著的差别。
8. Troops were displaying an obvious reluctance to get involved in quashing demonstrations.
部队显然并不愿意参与镇压示威游行。
9. Keith hoped the obvious sarcasm would have its intended effect.
基思希望这一明显的讽刺能达到预期的效果。
10. It became obvious that all her complaints were in vain.
很明显她所有的抱怨都是白费口舌。
11. Grammatical errors are always obvious to me, spelling mistakes stand out.
语法错误对我来说总是非常明显,而拼写错误也很显眼。
12. Haig took obvious delight in proving his critics wrong.
黑格显然以证明他的批评者是错误的为乐。
13. Well, it's obvious, ain't it?
嗯,这很明显,不是吗?
14. He made his displeasure patently obvious.
他明显地表示了不悦。
15. It's obvious why.
原因很明显.
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小编为大家整理上司希望你明白的事,希望对你有帮助哦!
1. Forget about excuses 不要寻找借口
No boss cares why an assignment wasn't done. It's your job to get it done and on time.
没有老板在乎你没有完成职责的原因。因此及时完成工作是你的事。
2. Don't aim for perfection 不要苛求“完美”
Getting it done well and on time is much more important than doing it "Perfectly"
及时把工作做好比做得“完美”重要得多。
3. Carrying your share is not enough 只做份内事是不够的
Bosses value people who do their job and look around for, create or ask for more real work.
上司看重那些不仅做份内事而且主动寻找、创造或要求更多工作的员工。
4. Follow through 自始至终完成工作
Tie up the loose ends of your assignments. Don't wait to be reminded, particularly by aSupervisor.
对分配给你的工作做到有始有终,不要等到别人特别是你的主管来提醒你。
5. Anticipate problems 预见到问题
When your responsibilities depend on input from others, check their plans and theirunderstanding of what you're requesting.
当你的工作有赖于他人的参与时,要核对他们的计划并确认他们知道你的要求。
6. Be resilient about problems 坚韧乐观地面对难题
Part of carrying your responsibilities is understanding that unforeseeable failures by others are aroutine part of work life. When problems occur, no one is picking on you and you can't excuseit as bad luck.
发生别人无法预料到的失误是工作生涯中常见的事情。理解这一点就是你工作职责的一部分。当问题发生时, 没有人怪罪于你,你也不能以运气不好作为借口。
7. Don't take problems to your boss 别把问题留给你的上司
If you lack the authority, come prepared with solutions when you broach the problem. Eventhough your boss may not use your solutions, you've made an impression as a problem solver- not as a problem collector.
如果你权力有限,在去见上司以前要准备好解决问题的方案。即使你的上司可能不采纳你的解决方案,也已经给他留下了这样的印象:你是解决问题而不是收集问题的人。
8. Attendance counts 出满勤
People quickly become aware of who makes an effort to be there and who uses any excuse tomiss a day.
从出勤情况可以很快看出,谁在努力工作,谁在寻找理由混日子。
9. Don't be a squeaking wheel 不要难字当头,喋喋不休
Don't be seen as " Here comes a problem".
不要让人见到你就觉得“又来了一个问题”。
10.Don't carry grudges 不要嫉妒怀恨他人
You cannot win them all. So don't squander your energy, the goodwill of your allies, and thepatience of your boss by turning every issue into a crusade.
你不可能胜过所有的人,因此不要把每个问题都变成争斗,这样就会浪费你的精力,丧失你同事的善意和你上司的耐心。
11.Choose your battles carefully 慎重选择是否“开战”
Ask yourself: how much difference the problem really makes. Is it worth making an enemy? DoI have a realistic chance of winning
扪心自问:这个问题到底有多大的重要性?是否值得你为此树敌?我有切实的获胜机会吗?
12.Deal directly with the person who makes the decision直接与决策者打交道
Dealing with people with less authority may be easier on your nerves, but you'll be wastingtime and effort.
可能与职权较小的人打交道不会使你那么紧张,但这会浪费你的时间和精力。
13. Keep control of problems 保持对问题的掌控
Let's say you need some special work done. Don't stop with getting approval. If the otherperson doesn't follow through, you're left looking inept.
比如说你需要完成某些特殊工作,不要因为还未得到批准而停下来不做。因为如果这样,尽管是别人不配合,你却已给人留下无能的印象。
14. Learn to translate boss language 学会“翻译”上司的话
"If it's not too much trouble" means, "Do it, and the sooner the better".
"如果这不是太麻烦的话"的意思是“做吧,而且越快越好”。
15. Learn what other people in the company are doing
了解公司的其他人在做什么
What were last year's big triumphs and failures?
去年公司主要的成功和不足是什么?
How does your job' intertwine with all this?
你在这中间起到什么样的作用?
Then you'll understand when, how and where to press for your goals.
然后你将明白何时、何地及如何去追求你的目标。
16. Get along with your co-workers 与你的同事和睦相处
Internal battles mean less production. To your boss, if you're involved, you're automaticallywrong.
内斗意味着减产。对你的上司来说,如果你卷入内斗就已经错了。
17. Protect the company's reputation 保护公司的名誉
Never discuss company business and people where strangers can overhear。 Even in private, bereticent.
不要在有陌生人能够无意中听到的场合谈论公司的事务和人员,即使在私下也不应当说。
18. Let others win sometimes 有时候要让别人胜出
"Sounds like a good idea. We'll do it that way". If you don't, people will resent you.
"这主意听起来不错。我们就这么做吧。"否则人们会讨厌你。
19. Learn Timing 学会选择时机
Develop the patience to wait for an appropriate occasion.
培养你的耐心,等待一个适当时机的到来。
20. Don't Lie 不要撒谎
Lying will make problems worse. If you're caught in a lie, you lose your credibility.
谎言会使问题变得更糟。如果你的谎言被拆穿,你将失去你的诚信。
21. Read your industry's publications 阅读本行业的书刊
Indicating you haven't the time or money to read will shock your bosses. To them, your lack ofinterest indicates no real career goals. Or worse, they may think that you are ignorant ofimportant professional news.
假如你声称没有时间或没钱阅读本行业的书刊,会让你的上司感到震惊。对他们来说,你缺乏兴趣表明你没有真正的职业目标。或更糟的是,他们可能会认为你对重要的专业新信息一无所知。
22. Get to know your peers 了解你的同行
Be active in one or more professional/trade organizations. The contacts you make andinformation you glean aid you on a personal level whenever you change jobs, while improvingyour current status.
积极参与一个或更多的专业/行业团体。不管你什么时候为改善你现有状况而跳槽,你建立的联系和收集的信息都会有助于你提高自身水平。
23. Never assume other people are operating from your standards
永远不要假设别人在按你的标准做事
When you find yourself thinking"I never would have expected such behaviour from her", youknow you've made the mistake of projecting your outlook on to others' behaviour.
当你发现你自己在想“我决不会料到她会有这种行为”时,你要知道,你己经犯了一个错误, 就是把自己的想法套在了别人的行为上。
24. Use commonsense 运用常识和判断力
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明白有清楚;明确;了解;知道等意思。例句:他大概已经明白了这样一个真理:人无论如何摔不掉自己的祖国。那么你知道明白用英语怎么说吗?下面来学习一下吧。
1. I really don't see any reason for changing it.
我真的不明白为什么要改变它。
2. The language of Darwin was intelligible to experts and non-experts alike.
达尔文的语言无论对专家还是非专业人士而言都明白易懂。
3. He wonders why the digits on his calculator slope to the right.
他不明白为什么他的计算器上面的数字向右倾斜。
4. "I think I hear the telephone ringing."—"Okay, I can take a hint."
“我想我听到电话铃在响。”——“好的,我明白你的意思了。”
5. What I did for you was free, gratis, you understand?
我为你所做的一切都是免费的,无偿的,你明白吗?
6. I don't know why he bothers me with this kind of rubbish.
我不明白他为何用这种烂事来烦我。
7. I'm not with you. Tell me what you mean.
我不明白你说的话,告诉我你是什么意思。
8. He tried again to get her to see reason.
他再次试图让她明白自己错了。
9. He instantly grasped that Stephen was talking about his wife.
他马上就明白斯蒂芬在说他的妻子。
10. They are aware of American political sensitivities about their country's role.
他们明白美国人对其国家扮演的政治角色很敏感。
11. She understood his meaning, if not his words, and took his advice.
她即便没听懂他的话,也明白了他的意思,并且接受了他的建议。
12. He hinted broadly that he would like to come.
他已经明白暗示他想来。
13. If you've read my earlier memoirs you'll know all about it.
如果你读过我早期的回忆录,就全都明白了。
14. They're trying to figure out the politics of this whole situation.
他们正试图弄明白整个情形背后的权术争斗。
15. She always listened earnestly as if this might help her to understand.
她总是很认真地听,就好像这能帮助她弄明白一样。
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