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摘录:这种要命的疲倦,就像大海一样,一浪又一浪地涨过来,一点一点地吞噬着他的意识。有时候,他被完全淹没其中,就这样默默地漂游;而有时候,凭借一种奇异的心灵作用,他又找回了些许精神力量,更加坚毅地前进。
这一天,他和那条船之间的距离又缩短了三英里,到了第二天,他又继续缩短了两英里-因为他现在就和比尔先生先前一样在地上匍匐前进,到了第五天晚上的时候,他发现那条船依然离他还有七英里的距离,而他每天的进程还不到一英里。幸好深秋的天气依然晴朗,他继续爬,一次又一次地晕死过去,可是醒来他又继续地往前爬,不停地回头张望着;而那头病狼也在不停地咳嗽着,发出艰难的喘息声,可依然紧紧尾随其后。他的膝盖-就和他的双脚一样-早给磨得血肉模糊,其实他一早就脱下了身上的衬衣裹住了膝盖,可都没有用,他一路爬下来,他身后的苔藓和岩石上也就留下了一道触目惊心的血渍。有一次他回头的时候,他看见那头饿狼正贪婪地舔着他的血渍,一时间他清楚地意识到自己的结局-除非-除非他把那头狼解决掉。就这样,一幕从来没有上演的求生悲剧开始了-病人在前面爬,瘸腿的病狼尾随其后,两个生灵就这样在荒漠里拖着垂死的躯壳,随时准备猎取对方的生命。
That day he decreased the distance between him and the ship by three miles; the next day by two-for he was crawling now as Bill had crawled; and the end of the day found the ship still seven mailes away and him unable to make even a mile a day. Still the indian summer held on, and he continued to crawl and faint ,turn and turn about; and ever the sick wolf coughed and wheezed at his heels. His knees had become raw meat like his feet, and though he paddled them with the shirt from his back it was a red track he left behind him on the moss and stones. Once , glancing back, he saw the wolf licking hungrily his bleeding trail, and he saw sharply what his own end might be-unless-unless he could get the wolf. Then began as grim a tragedy of existence as was ever played-a sick man that crawled, a sick wolf that limped, two creatures dragging their dying carcasses across the desolation and hunting each other’s lives.
如果这是头健康的狼,他也觉得没什么;可是一想到自己要葬身狼腹,尤其是眼前这头令人作恶、病怏怏的饿狼,他就觉得非常厌恶。要知道他可是一个非常讲究的人。他又开始胡思乱想起来,人也因幻觉影响而变得迷糊。他神智清醒的时间越来越少,越来越短。
Had it been a well wolf, it would not have mattered so much to the man; but the thought of going to feed the maw of that loathsome and all but dead thing was repugnant to him. He was finicky. His mind had begun to wander again, and to be perplexed by hallucinations, while his lucid intervals grew rarer and shorter.
He was awaken once from a faint by a wheeze close in his ear.The wolf leaped lamely back, losing its footing and falling in its weakness. It was ludicrous, but he was not amused. Nor was he even afraid. He was too far gone for that. But his mind was for the moment clear, and he lay and considered.
有一次他从昏迷中被耳边传来的喘息声惊醒;那只狼很快一跛一跛地跳开,由于身体虚弱,那头狼还失足摔了一跤,那样子可笑极了,可是他却笑不出来。倒不是因为他害怕,事情到了这田地他早就不害怕了。不过,在这瞬间他的脑子很清醒,他躺在地上仔细地思考起来。
The ship was more than four miles away. He could see it quite distinctly when he rubbed the mists out of his eyes. But he could never crawl those four miles. He knew that, and was very calm in the knowledge. He knew that he could not crawl half a mile. And yet he wanted to live. It was unreasonable that he should die after all he had undergone. Fate asked too much of him. And , dying, he declined to die. It was stark madness, perhaps, but in the very grip of Death he defied Death and refused to die.
那艘船就在离他还不到四英里的地方。他使劲揉了揉眼睛,那艘船清晰的出现在他眼前。可是,他再也爬不完这四英里的路程了,这点他很清楚,因为就算是半英里的路程他也爬不了。可同时他也非常镇静,因为他想活下去。他已经经历了千辛万苦,他不想就这样死掉。命运对他实在太苛刻了,可他就是不愿俯身受死。这是一种近乎疯狂的想法,可就算他无法逃脱死神的魔掌,他仍然要抗争下去,要让自己活下去。
He closed his eyes and composed himself with infinite precaution. He steeled himself to keep above the suffocating languor that lapped like a rising tide through all the wells of his being. It was very like a sea, this deadly languor, that rose and rose and drowned his consciousness bit by bit. Sometimes he was all but submerged, swimming through oblivion with a faltering stroke;and again, by some strange alchemy of soul, he would find another shred of will and strike out more strongly.
他闭上眼睛,设法使自己平静下来,不敢有丝毫的松懈。令人窒息的疲倦像涨潮一样,从他的身体各处涌来,他还是顽强地打醒精神,不让自己被疲倦淹没。这种要命的疲倦,就像大海一样,一浪又一浪地涨过来,一点一点地吞噬着他的意识。有时候,他被完全淹没其中,就这样默默地漂游;而有时候,凭借一种奇异的心灵作用,他又找回了些许精神力量,更加坚毅地前进。
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晨读不仅能使学生的生活习惯、品格、人生修养和境界等得到明显的改进和提升,有良好的英语晨读习惯更能够提高英语的阅读水平。下面读文网小编为大家带来英语晨读美文三篇,供大家朗读欣赏!
All I wanted was a cozy log cabin in the state of Maine, somewhere deep in the woods, to hang out under the stars. It was to be my first vacation with my boyfriend, and I wanted it to be perfect.
So rather than waste money on a guidebook that was bound to be outdated before it appeared on the shelves of my local bookstore, I decided to search online. Little did I know that when I typed the words “Maine log cabin rental”at altavista.com, I was stepping into 48 hours of Internet hell. Forget dinner, forget work, forget sleep. I was glued to my computer for hours clicking from one listing to another to find the perfect hideaway.
I was wrong. The first site that I tried, cyberrentals.com, grouped rentals by region but had no map to tell me where such romantic-sounding, places as Seal Cove or Owl’s Head were. So I had to log on to mapblast.com to locate each one, then return to slogging through listings.Another site, vacationspot.com, let me find 50 cabins and cottages right off, but most of the rentals turned out to be closed for the winter.
I learned only after reading a lot of fine print. One day and hundreds of listings later, I was ready to throw my computer out the window. For every 10 vacation spots I looked into, I found maybe one that sounded good and more often than not, it was booked, too far away, or outrageously priced. Searching on line was really giving me a headache.I finally decided to put our log-cabin Web dreams on hold and search the old-fashioned way at a bookstore. I bought a paperback book called America’s Favorite Inns, B&Bs, and Small Hotels. I was relieved to see that each city was neatly pinpointed on a detailed map, and most had good descriptions to help me figure out where in Maine we should go in the first place.
Then I found it: an old inn on the southern coast of Maine that rented us one of its best rooms for $100 a night. Guess what? It didn’t have a Website. I took my chances based on a good review, a great location and a bargain price. It wasn’t a log cabin, and it was far from the woods, but there were lace curtains, a hardwood floor and a quilt on the bed. With the ocean outside our window and a fireplace in the room, my holiday was just as cozy as I dreamed it would be.
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朗读英文诗歌,领略语言文字的优美,下面是读文网小编为大家带来精选英文诗歌朗读,欢迎大家朗读!
Why didst thou promise such a beauteous day,
为什么预告那么璀璨的日子,
And make me travel forth without my cloak,
哄我不携带大衣便出来游行,
To let base clouds o'ertake me in my way,
让鄙贱的乌云中途把我侵袭,
Hiding thy bravery in their rotten smoke?
用臭腐的烟雾遮蔽你的光明?
'Tis not enough that through the cloud thou break,
你以为现在冲破乌云来晒干
To dry the rain on my storm-beaten face,
我脸上淋漓的雨点便已满足?
For no man well of such a salve can speak
须知无人会赞美这样的药丹:
That heals the wound and cures not the disgrace:
只能医治创伤,但洗不了耻辱。
Nor can thy shame give physic to my grief;
你的愧赧也无补于我的心疼;
Though thou repent, yet I have still the loss:
你虽已忏悔,我依然不免损失:
The offender's sorrow lends but weak relief
对于背着耻辱的十字架的人,
To him that bears the strong offence's cross.
冒犯者引咎只是微弱的慰藉。
Ah! but those tears are pearl which thy love sheds,
唉,但你的爱所流的泪是明珠,
And they are rich and ransom all ill deeds.
它们的富丽够赎你的罪有余。
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朗读是提升英语水平的秘诀,下面读文网小编为大家带来英语经典美文朗读,欢迎阅读欣赏!
To regard all things and principles of things as inconstant modes or fashions has more and more become the tendency of modern thought. Let us begin with that which is without——our physical life. Fix upon it in one of its more exquisite intervals, the moment, for instance, of delicious recoil from the flood of water in summer heat. What is the whole physical life in that moment but a combination of natural elements to which science gives their names? But these elements, phosphorus and lime and delicate fibers, are present not in the human body alone: we detect them in places most remote from it. Our physical life is a perpetual motion of them——the passage of the blood, the wasting and repairing of the lenses of the eye, the modification of the tissues of the brain under every ray of light and sound-processes which science reduces to simpler and more elementary forces. Like the elements of which we are composed, the action of these forces extends beyond us: it rusts iron and ripens corn. Far out on every side of us those elements are broadcast, driven in many currents; and birth and gesture and death and the springing of violets from the grave are but a few out of ten thousand resultant combinations. That clear, perpetual outline of face and limb is but an image of ours, under which we group them a design in a web, the actual threads of which pass out beyond it. This at least of flame——like our life has, that it is but the concurrence, renewed from moment to moment, of forces parting sooner or later on their ways.
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朗读是学习英语的最好方法,下面读文网小编为大家带来经典英语美文朗读,希望大家喜欢!
A man may usually be known by the books he reads as well as by the company he keeps; for there is a companionship of books as well as of men; and one should always live in the best company, whether it be of books or of men.
A good book may be among the best of friends. It is the same today that it always was, and it will never change. It is the most patient and cheerful of companions. It does not turn its back upon us in times of adversity or distress. It always receives us with the same kindness; amusing and instructing us in youth, and comforting and consoling us in age.
Men often discover their affinity to each other by the mutual love they have for a book just as two persons sometimes discover a friend by the admiration which both entertain for a third. There is an old proverb, ‘Love me, love my dog.” But there is more wisdom in this:” Love me, love my book.” The book is a truer and higher bond of union. Men can think, feel, and sympathize with each other through their favorite author. They live in him together, and he in them.
A good book is often the best urn of a life enshrining the best that life could think out; for the world of a man’s life is, for the most part, but the world of his thoughts. Thus the best books are treasuries of good words, the golden thoughts, which, remembered and cherished, become our constant companions and comforters.
Books possess an essence of immortality. They are by far the most lasting products of human effort. Temples and statues decay, but books survive. Time is of no account with great thoughts, which are as fresh today as when they first passed through their author’s minds, ages ago. What was then said and thought still speaks to us as vividly as ever from the printed page. The only effect of time have been to sift out the bad products; for nothing in literature can long survive e but what is really good.
Books introduce us into the best society; they bring us into the presence of the greatest minds that have ever lived. We hear what they said and did; we see the as if they were really alive; we sympathize with them, enjoy with them, grieve with them; their experience becomes ours, and we feel as if we were in a measure actors with them in the scenes which they describe.
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Youth is not a time of life; it is a state of mind; it is not a matter of rosy cheeks, red lips and supple knees; it is a matter of the will, a quality of the imagination, a vigor of the emotions; it is the freshness of the deep springs of life.
Youth means a tempera-mental predominance of courage over timidity, of the appetite for adventure over the love of ease. This often exists in a man of 60 more than a boy of 20.Nobody grows old merely by a number of years.We grow old by deserting our ideals.
Years may wrinkle the skin, but to give up enthusiasm wrinkles the soul. Worry , fear, self-distrust bows the heart and turns the spring back to dust.
Whether 60 or 16, there is in every human being’s heart the lure of wonder, the unfailing childlike appetite of what’s next and the joy of the game of living.In the center of your heart and my heart there is a wireless station: so long as it receives messages of beauty, hope, cheer, courage and power from men and from the Infinite, so long are you young.
When the aerials are down, and your spirit is covered with snows of cynicism and the ice of pessimism, then you are grown old, even at 20, but as long as your aerials are up, to catch waves of optimism, there is hope you may die young at 80.
英语美文朗读:青春
塞缪尔·厄尔曼
青春不是年华,而是心境;青春不是桃面、丹唇、柔膝,而是深沉的意志,恢宏的想象,炙热的恋情;青春是生命的深泉在涌流。
青春气贯长虹,勇锐盖过怯弱,进取压倒苟安。如此锐气,二十后生而有之,六旬男子则更多见。年岁有加,并非垂老,理想丢弃,方堕暮年。
岁月悠悠,衰微只及肌肤;热忱抛却,颓废必致灵魂。忧烦,惶恐,丧失自信,定使心灵扭曲,意气如灰。
无论年届花甲,拟或二八芳龄,心中皆有生命之欢乐,奇迹之诱惑,孩童般天真久盛不衰。人人心中皆有一台天线,只要你从天上人间接受美好、希望、欢乐、勇气和力量的信号,你就青春永驻,风华常存。
一旦天线下降,锐气便被冰雪覆盖,玩世不恭、自暴自弃油然而生,即使年方二十,实已垂垂老矣;然则只要树起天线,捕捉乐观信号,你就有望在八十高龄告别尘寰时仍觉年轻。
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摘录:幸运是这样一个组合——做好准备,相信自己……也许再加上一点点的魔法!换言之,幸运也许正向你走来,但在它降临时,你得做好准备!
Dear Arizona,
亲爱的亚利桑那:
My brother is so lucky. Good stuff is always happening to him. Do you believe in luck? And if so, how can I get more of it?
我的兄弟运气特别好,常有好事发生在他身上。你相信运气吗?如果真有运气,我怎样才能得到更多一些呢?
—Looking for Luck in Louisiana
——身在路易斯安那寻找好运的人
Dear Looking,
亲爱的运气寻觅者:
I was eating breakfast with one hand, petting my cat, Cow, with the other, and reading the back of the cereal box, when—“YOUCH!” I screamed. “Why’d you pinch me?”
我当时正一手吃早餐,一手爱抚着我的猫“牛牛”,同时在看燕麦片盒子背面的信息。就在这时——“哎呦”,我尖叫起来,“你干嘛捏我?”
“You’re not wearing green,” said my little brother, Tex. “Everyone knows you get pinched if you don’t wear green on Saint Patrick’s Day!”
“因为你没穿绿色衣服,”我的小弟弟特克斯说,“人人都知道如果在圣帕特里克节里不穿绿色衣服就会被捏!”
“It’s true,” said my little sister, Indi.
“这是真的!”我的小妹妹英蒂说。
I was mostly mad about getting pinched, but also a tiny bit glad about being reminded that it was Saint Patrick’s Day.
我对自己被掐感到非常生气,但有一点儿值得高兴的是,这提醒了我今天是圣帕特里克节。
I panicked. “What am I going to do? I don’t have time to change. I’ll get pinched all day long!”
我惊慌失措:“我该怎么办?我没时间换衣服了。一整天我都会被人捏的!”
“Well,” Tex said, taking the old green baseball cap off his head, “you could borrow my lucky hat.”
“好吧,”特克斯从他头上摘下那顶绿色的旧棒球帽,说,“你可以借我的幸运帽。”
“But it’s your favorite!” I said.
“但它可是你的最爱。”我说。
“I know,” said Tex. “Just promise to give it back after school.”
我知道,”特克斯说,“只要你答应放学后还给我就行了。”
“No problem,” I said, glancing in the mirror on my way out the door. “I look like agoofball in this thing!”
“没问题,”我说。出门前,我照了照镜子。“戴上这个东西,我看上去就像个傻瓜!”
“A lucky goofball!” said Tex.
“一个幸运的傻瓜!”特克斯说。
“Hum.” I grabbed my backpack. “Thanks, I think.”
“嗯,”我抓起书包说道,“好吧,谢谢。”
Now, before I go on, you should know that I’m not an overly superstitious person. I don’t believe that thirteen is an unlucky number or that breaking a mirror brings seven years of bad luck. I definitely don’t freak out if a black cat crosses my path. And when it comes to things like lucky four-leaf clovers and lucky pennies, I just never believed in them.
说到这里,你要知道我不是个极其迷信的人。我不认为13是个倒霉的数字,或者打碎镜子会带来7年的厄运。我决不会因为一只黑猫在我面前走过而被吓坏,也决不会相信诸如幸运四叶草、幸运便士这类东西。
Anyway, I was racing to catch the school bus, and I saw a dollar on the sidewalk! I looked around to see if anyone was looking for it, but people just kept stepping on the poor thing, so I decided to rescue it. I’d found pennies and nickels before, but never a dollar! Then, I didn’t miss the bus, because the bus was even later than me—which never happens!
不管怎样,当我正拼命追赶校车 时,我看到人行道上有张一美元的钞票!我环顾四周,看看有没人在找它,可人们都相继踩过这个可怜的家伙,所以我决定营救它。以前我捡过便士和镍币,可从没 发现过一美元的钞票。随后,我没有错过校车,因为校车甚至比我还晚到——这是从未发生过的!
My luck didn’t stop there. Carlos and Jackson were sitting behind me, quizzing each other on spelling words. I turned around and said, “You guys know that test isn’t till tomorrow, right?”
我的运气并未就此打住。卡洛斯和杰克逊刚好坐在我后面,正相互考单词拼写。我转过头去,说:“你们知道明天才测验,对吗?”
“It got switched to this morning,” said Jackson. “Remember? There’s some assembly tomorrow. ”
“已经改到今天早上了。”杰克逊说,“记得吗?明天有个大会要开。”
“That’s right. I totally forgot!” I said. “I’m so lucky that I sat in front of you. If I hadn’t, I wouldn’t have found out till it was too late!” I got out my spelling words, studied all the way to school. And ended up acing the test!
“对哦。我忘得一干二净!”我说,“坐在你们前面我多么幸运啊。不然,到我发现已经晚了。”我拿出要考的单词表来,去学校的一路上,我都在复习。最终,我考了个好成绩。
The minute I got home, I gave Tex a gigantic hug.
一回到家,我就给特克斯一个大大的拥抱。
“This is the luckiest hat in the world,” I said. “I’m never taking it off!”
“这是世界上最幸运的帽子。”我说,“我永远都不取下来了!”
“But you promised to give it back!” said Tex.
“但你答应过要还给我的。”特克斯说。
“I know, but…” I pretended to try to pull the hat off my head. “I think it’s stuck.”
“我知道,但是……”我假装试图把帽子摘下来,“我想它粘住了。”
“It is not!” said Tex.
“没有!”特克斯说。
“Please-oh-please let me borrow your lucky hat for one more day!” I begged.
“求求你把你的幸运帽借我再用一天。”我请求道。
“Tomorrow I’m auditioning for the school play, and I need every bit of help I can get.”
“明天我要参加学校话剧表演的选角面试,我需要得到所有帮助。”
“OK,” said Tex. “One more day. But you’d better be really nice to me.”
“好吧,”特克斯说,“再借一天。但你最好真得对我好点。”
“I will,” I agreed. “In fact, here you can have my lucky dollar!” Tex let out a whoop, then started dancing around and waving his gift in the air.
“我会的,”我同意道,“这样,我这张幸运美元给你!”特克斯欢呼了一声,接着,他一边在空中挥舞着他的礼物,一边开始在四周跳起舞来。
The next day turned out to be super lucky. My audition couldn’t have gone better.
第二天,我的运气棒极了。我的试演再好不过了。
“Wow, Arizona!” said my friend Mareya. “I can’t believe how amazingly you just did! You are so getting a major part in this play!”
“哇,亚利桑那!”我的朋友玛瑞娅说,“你刚刚的表演太令人吃惊了,我简直不敢相信!你肯定可以在这部话剧里演主角!”
“Thanks! You did really great, too!” I said. “But honestly, the only reason I did OK is because I had my lucky hat.”
“谢谢!你也表演得很棒!”我回答道,“不过,老实说,我表演好全因为我有一顶幸运帽。”
“What lucky hat?” asked Mareya.
“什么幸运帽?”玛瑞娅问。
“This one,” I said, reaching into my backpack, where I thought I’d put Tex’s hat since I couldn’t wear it for the audition. But it wasn’t there! “Oh no!” I cried. “It’s gone! What am I going to tell Tex?”
“就是这个,”我边说边把手伸进书包里,我以为我把特克斯的帽子放在书包里了,因为我不能戴着它表演。但帽子不在里面!“哦,不!”我喊道,“它不见了!我怎么跟特克斯交代啊?”
Mareya helped me look for it. Luckily, we found Tex’s hat in my locker. Also luckily, I discovered that I could be lucky with or without a goofy-looking cap in my possession.
玛瑞娅也帮我找,幸运的是,我们发现原来帽子放在我的储物柜里了。同样幸运的是,我发现无论戴不戴那顶落入我手中让我看起来滑稽可笑的帽子,我都会有好运。
“So it wasn’t the hat,” said Mareya. “This is just a wild guess, but maybe it was all those hours you spent practicing over the past month.”
“所以,并不是因为那顶帽子,”玛瑞娅说,“那不过是瞎猜罢了。也许那是你过去一个月里刻苦练习的结果。”
“Hmm,” I said. “It’s possible.”
“嗯,”我说,“可能是!”
So, dear Looking, I guess you could say that luck is a combination of being prepared, believing in yourself…and maybe just a tiny bit of magic! In other words, luck may come your way, but you have to be ready for it when it does!
所以,亲爱的运气寻觅者,我想你可以说幸运是这样一个组合——做好准备,相信自己……也许再加上一点点的魔法!换言之,幸运也许正向你走来,但在它降临时,你得做好准备!
Ciao for now.
写到这里。再见。
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亚利桑那
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摘录:我们很喜欢做的往往就暗含着我们原本就很喜欢用的方法,花几分钟去思考一下你真正喜欢做的是什么,找出能增加你经验的重要因素。看看你是否能找到一些固定的模式,或者一些共通方法呢?
Our personal strengths are part of what makes us unique as individuals, and part of the value we offer to the world around us. If we're not aware of our personal strengths, however, we don't always utilize them as fully as we could, and we potentially miss out on true fulfilment in our lives and careers.
每个人不一样的优点造就了我们每个人的唯一性,我们也能用我们的优点为周围的人提供帮助,如果我们还不知道自己的优点,就没法充分地利用它,我们也可能就错过了实现我们个人的价值和成就事业的机会。
In this post, you'll discover 10 ways to find your personal strengths. You might find that some of the methods below are more effective for you than others, so cherry-pick the techniques that resonate.
在本文中有10种方法可以帮你找出自己的优点。你会发现,以下的某些方法可能对你会更有效,择优挑选那些对你有用的方法吧。
Notice what you enjoy
留心一下自己喜欢的是些什么
The kinds of activities we enjoy doing are often an indicator of the skills we naturally enjoy. Take a few moments to think about the things you really love to do, and look at the underlying elements that enrich these experiences for you. Can you see any patterns or shared skills among these things?
我们很喜欢做的往往就暗含着我们原本就很喜欢用的方法,花几分钟去思考一下你真正喜欢做的是什么,找出能增加你经验的重要因素。看看你是否能找到一些固定的模式,或者一些共通方法呢?
Ask trusted friends and family
问问你信赖的家人和朋友
Sometimes it can be hard to judge our strengths with accuracy. Many of us come from cultures where it's polite to be modest, and this can make it hard to identify our own strengths without any outside help. Ask trusted friends or family who know you well what they think your personal strengths are, and see if any of the answers surprise you.
有时我们自己很难精准的找出我们自己的优点。许多人所认可的文化是谦逊礼貌型的,所以如果没有别人的帮助,我们很难弄清我们自己的优点。问问你信赖的家人和朋友,在他们心中你的优点是什么,看看是否会有让自己吃惊地答案出现呢?
What qualities do you like in yourself?
你喜欢自己身上的哪些品质呢?
The qualities you particularly like about yourself will give you some indication of your personal strengths. For example, if you like the fact that you stick to your goals and see them through, even when the going gets tough, one of your personal strengths might be discipline or determination.
你喜欢自己身上的这些品质特点往往也暗示着你个人的优点哦。比如,你喜欢你自己坚持完成目标,并一直付诸行动的特点。尤其是当事情变得棘手的时候,你的优点就会变成坚持做完这件事的决心。
What kind of work do you do and what makes you good at that work?
你做的是什么工作呢?是什么让你胜任这份工作的呢?
Think about what you enjoy about your work and why. If you're struggling to find much that is enjoyable, consider what's missing instead.
仔细想想你喜欢做什么样的工作?为什么喜欢?如果你很难找出你喜欢的,思考一下,是不是其中却少了点什么。
Take an online test
做个在线测试
If you want a more impartial reflection of your personal strengths, try taking one of the many available online tests.
如果你想要一个更公正的反映你优点的方法,那就试试一些网络的在线测试吧
What leaves you feeling energised?
是什么让你觉得精神百倍呢?
We've already looked at the activities and skills you enjoy, and now it's time to look at what leaves you feeling energised. Another way of approaching this is to think back to times you were in what Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi describes as “flow”。 When we are in “flow”, time passes quickly and we feel engrossed in the task at hand. Looking at the skills required for these tasks will give you further clues about your personal strengths.
我们已经讨论了你喜欢的活动和方法,现在也该找出让你精神百倍的原因了。另一个方法就是回想米哈里?契克森米哈赖教授在“流模型”中所提到的时间问题。在这个“流模型”中,当我们沉迷于正在进行的工作的时候,我们就会感觉的精力充沛,时间过得也非常快。找到做这些工作所需的技能也会为你找出自己的优点提供更多的线索哦。
What makes you proud?
是什么让你引以为豪?
Think about three instances in your life when you really felt proud of the way you acted or responded. What was it about your action or response that left you feeling proud? What values did you display and why do you feel proud of the way you acted?
想想让你在生活中真正引以为豪的三个例子,是你的什么行动或反应让你觉得很自豪呢?是什么原因让你觉得很自豪呢?你是因为你的哪些行为觉得很自豪呢?
Who are your role models? What strengths do you admire in them?
谁是你的偶像呢?他们的哪些品质是你所敬佩的呢?
Most of us have role models in our business and personal lives, and these can provide clues to our own personal strengths. Look for the strengths you admire about your particular role models, then think about whether you demonstrate any of those strengths yourself.
在我们工作和生活中,偶像的一些优点也能帮助我们发现自己的优点,找出偶像身上你特别敬佩的那些优点,然后思考你自己是不是也有这些优点
What feedback do you notice from people in day-to-day life?
在平时的生活中别人反馈给你的是一些什么信息?
This tip might sound similar to number 2, but there's a crucial difference: Whereas the second tip involved approaching and asking people for feedback, this tip involves looking for feedback in everyday interactions. This is useful as it can provide a more accurate reflection of how other people truly perceive your strengths, rather their self-reported perception.
这一点可能看起来与第二点相似,但这里有一个很重要的区别:第二点它包含试探和询问别人的意见,而这一点涉及你在与别人的交流互动中寻找获得反馈信息。这一点是很有用的,因为它可以从别人客观的感知中提供给你一个更准确的反馈信息,而不是他们主观的感知。
Which strengths resonate with you?
你所赞同的是你的哪些优点?
Take a look at a list of personal strengths and notice which personal strengths stand out to you. We are often drawn to the strengths that we display ourselves, so think about where each o the strengths that resonate show up in your professional and personal life.
看一看你所列出的优点,观察一下是哪些优点让你脱颖而出。我们通常都向别人展示出这些优点,想想,通常我们的这些优点都表现在哪些地方。
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以前,手上有了余钱,人们才会外出旅游。但是,现在的年轻人,即使没有多少钱,甚至没有工作,也比前几代人走得更远,行得更久。
Traveling for leisure is usually something people do when they have money to spare. But today’s young people travel longer and farther than previous generations, even though they don’t have much money; some don’t even have a job.
现如今,更多的年轻人倾心于旅游,这已成为一个全球趋势。联合国世界旅游组织2012年发布的报告显示:2011年,近2亿年轻人外出旅行,其人数占到国际游客人数的20%。同时,全球旅游业2011年年收入中,超过1800亿美元(约合1.12万亿人民币)都来自年轻人,而这一数字较2007年增长了近30%。联合国认为,产生这一现象的原因,一方面源于新兴市场国家不断上涨的工资水平,另一方面则和发达国家年轻人“即使经济不稳定也要去旅游”的观念密不可分。
It is a worldwide trend that more and more young people are interested in traveling. In a report released in 2012, the United Nation’s World Tourism Organization estimated that in the year 2011, 20 percent of all international tourists, or nearly 200 million travelers, were young people. Young tourists generate more than $180 billion (1.12 trillion yuan) in annual tourism revenue, an increase of nearly 30 percent since 2007. The UN attributes that growth both to rising incomes in emerging economies and a commitment by youth in developed countries to “continue traveling despite economic uncertainty”.
In the US, the Millennial generation, defined as those between ages 16 and 34, is more interested than older generations in traveling abroad, despite the economic downturn and high unemployment rates, according to a 2013 Boston Consulting Group report.
波士顿咨询2013年的报告则显示:在美国,16至34岁的人群比他们的父辈们更热衷于周游世界;这些“千禧世代”不顾低迷的经济、居高不下的失业率,依然对旅游充满兴趣。
Another recent report, released by The World Youth Student and Educational (WYSE) Travel Confederation, which surveyed more than 34,000 people from 137 countries, found that young travelers are not as interested in “the traditional sun, sea and sand holidays” as previous generations. They are spending less time in “major gateway cities” and instead exploring more remote destinations, and choosing long backpacking trips over short breaks.
另一份报告来自世界青年学生教育旅行联盟:它对来自137个国家的34000人进行了调查,结果发现,当代年轻人已经不再像前几代人那样对“传统的阳光、沙滩、大海假日”情有独钟,他们不再花很多时间流连于“大城市”,而是潜心探索更加偏远的地区,选择走走停停的长途背包旅行。
The study showed an increase from 2007 in young travelers taking trips longer than two months, with the average trip lasting 58 days.
这份报告还发现,相较于2007年,出行时长超过两个月的年轻旅行者数量明显增多,平均旅行时间长达58天。
Amanda Machado, writing in The Atlantic website, says with easy access to social media and budget-travel tools like Airbnb, Couchsurfing, Skyscanner, and Lonely Planet message boards, long-term travel isn’t as expensive as some may imagine.
阿曼达?马卡多在《大西洋月刊》的网站上写到:低门槛的社交媒体与穷游工具的普及(如Airbnb, Couchsurfing, Skyscanner, 以及 Lonely Planet留言板)让长时间旅行不再昂贵,。
Many young people are looking for meaningful experiences in their travels. Carrie Barker, writing on tourism marketing website MilesPartnership.com, says today’s young people are more interested in bragging about what they just did in social media than showing off what they just bought. “Millennials care about checking in at the most buzz-worthy restaurants, or posting artfully filtered selfies from remote beaches to shamelessly promote our cool factor,” she says.
很多年轻人期望在旅途中寻找有意义的经历。嘉丽?巴克在旅游营销网站MilesPartnership.com上写到:相较于在网上晒自己买到的东西,现在的年轻人更喜欢在社交媒体上晒自己做过的事。“‘千禧世代’更关心能否入住最具话题酒店,或者为了耍酷,上传一些在偏远海滩上拍照并美化过的自拍照。”她说。
Many young people are also using traveling as a form of job training. According to the WYSE Travel Confederation’s report, 22 percent of respondents wanted to learn a language during their travels, 15 percent wanted to gain more work experience, and 15 percent wanted to study — all increases on 2007.
还有很多年轻人则把旅行当作一种职业培训。世界青年学生教育旅行联盟的报告显示,22%的受访者想要通过旅行学习一门新的语言,15%的人想要丰富自己的工作阅历,还有15%的小伙伴想要借此机会学习更多知识。而所有这些比例都较2007年有所增加。
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导语本文通过筷子这种取食工具分析日本文化的内涵.日本和中国同属汉字文化圈和筷子文化圈.从中国引入日本后筷子后在饮食生活中得到普及和发展,并产生了独特的筷子文化.筷子的长度和形状也进行了改造,与中国多用竹筷子不同,日本筷子多木制、稍短、尖头粗尾,更好的适应日本饮食多生冷、分餐制的特点.日本筷子还因使用者而有所区别,有儿童专用筷、成人专用筷、客人专用筷,还分男女筷.公用筷和方便筷的产生都缘于日本人认为筷子用后灵魂会停留在上面,不能让别人玷污了自己的灵魂而使自己遭受灾祸.在筷子的使用上有多达几十种禁忌,其中除了不雅举止外,有的还和葬礼有关系.
What do you usually eat with?
If your answer is not, "My hands, " then you belong to one of two minorities on this planet. Thirty percent of us usually eat with cutlery. Another thirty percent use chopsticks.
你一般是用什么吃东西的呢?
如果你的回答说的不是手,那么你便是属于这个星球上主要两大类人群之一了。在我们这个星球上,有百分之三十的人吃饭时是使用刀具的,而另外百分之三十的人则是使用筷子。
How the Japanese began to use chopsticks is a subject of debate. Some say chopsticks wended their way, along with other facets of culture, from China, throughKorea, toJapanaround the sixth century AD. Others, that they were brought directly back toJapanby an imperial envoy at a somewhat later date. In any case, like many things that came fromChinatoJapan, chopsticks were initially revered.
The Japanese word for "chopsticks" is hashi which is a homophone with the Japanese word meaning "bridge". The concept of chopsticks providing a bridge is a recurring motif in Japanese culture, reflected in distinctive shapes and materials that vary with the occasions of their use. In their early history, Japanese chopsticks provided a bridge between the human and the divine.Rather than for taking ordinary meals, they were used, at first, for sharing food with the gods.
日本人是如何开始用筷子的呢?这个问题一直都在被人讨论。有的人说筷子是和其它文化事物一样,大概在公元6世纪的时候,从中国经由韩国,再传到日本。当然也有人说,筷子之所以流传到日本,是当时帝国之间的使者往来所造成的。无论怎么说,像其它早期从中国流传到日本的那样东西一样,筷子从一开始在日本就受到了尊从。
在日文中,筷子的发音是hashi,这和桥在日本中的发音是一样的。而这样的一层含义也就表达出了在日本文化中,筷子是被赋予了搭建各种文化桥梁的深刻含义,这从筷子在不同场合中有不同的形状,材料这一点上可以反映出来。日本的早期历史中,筷子还充当了把人和神联系起来的桥梁,筷子不仅仅是人们平时吃饭时所使用的工具,更重要的是,使用筷子则象征着神是与你一在一起的。
It was believed that when a pair of chopsticks was offered to a deity, the chopsticks became inhabited by that deity. When those chopsticks were used to eat the food that was offered along with them, mortal and immortal dined together.
自从人们把一双筷子敬奉给神明后,人们则认为神明也是用筷子吃饭的,所以当用筷子来吃饭时,无论是凡人还是神明,都是一样在使用筷子。
Unlike their Chinese precursors, of uniform thickness, Japanese chopsticks are tapered along their length. The chopsticks used for ceremonial purposes are tapered on both ends. Akira Izu explained when I visited his chopstick museum in Kyoto, "The gods said, 'One end is for you, the other is for us.'"
和早就在使用筷子的中国不同,中国的筷子上下差不多都是一样粗细,而日本的筷子则是随着筷子的长度,尾端变的越来越细。另外,在商业会餐中使用的筷子则是两边都很细,对于这个问题,曾经我参访京都筷子博物馆时,Akira Izu是这样解释的:“神曰:一边为你,一边是为我。”
This kind of ceremonial chopstick is still in use inJapan, today. One venue is the formal tea ceremony. The form of the tea ceremony was crystallized by the seventeenth century tea master, Senno Rikyu, who prescribed a light meal before sharing tea. It is said that Rikyu would carve new chopsticks, himself, from a fresh block of cedar before his guests would arrive. These had tapered, rounded ends and a squared off middle section so as to be held easily. This style of chopsticks still bears Rikyu's name and is used for the tea ceremony and in many restaurants.
像这种在不同场合下使用不同的筷子如今在日本依然是一种习惯。正式的茶会就是一个很好的例子,这种形式的茶会的中心思想是源自于日本17世纪一位禅宗大师—利修,他每次在给客人上茶前都会让客人稍微吃一点东西。据说村田每次在客人到来之前,都会亲自用雪松木自己制作筷子,他做的筷子尖顶圆底,筷子中间的部分较平坦,这样拿起来也比较方便。而这种筷子则是用利修的名字命名并一直在日本的茶会和其它餐厅里沿用至今。
You will also find ceremonial chopsticks used in Japanese homes during New Year celebrations. They are made from light colored wood, with a round cross-section throughout. It is common, at a big family gathering, for each member to receive his or her own set of these chopsticks to use throughout the holiday period. Following the holidays these chopsticks are often taken to a temple and burned in a fire maintained for that purpose.
The custom of individuals using their own pair of chopsticks is not only for the holidays.
在新年里,礼仪场合下使用的筷子也会出现在日本家庭中。通常它们都是由明亮颜色的木头制作而成的,两头都是圆柱形。不但如此,逢年过节在大家庭聚会中,大家都使用自己的筷子是再平常不过的了。在一些节日里,这类筷子通常也会被带到寺庙中去被点燃,并赋予上节日的意义。
Chopsticks gradually took their place, in Japan, as a bridge between serving vessels and the mouth in ordinary meals. Unlike Chinese families, who keep a collection of a dozen or so identical chopsticks in a box or a large cup on the dining table, Japanese families tend to keep personal pairs of chopsticks for each family member.
不仅仅是在逢年过节的时候大家都使用自己的筷子,筷子在日本正逐渐变的重要,作为重要场合中的代表以及平常餐饮中的工具,筷子依旧充当连接两者的桥梁。在中国的家,无论是普通筷子还是个人筷子,都是收在一起放到一个盒子里或者一个杯子里并摆放在桌上,而日本家庭则是把每个家庭成员的筷子都单独分好放好。
Japanese chopsticks for every day use are tapered at only the end used to grasp the food, and can be found in vast variety. At the beginning of the seventeenth century the people of Wakasa (an area along theJapanSeacoast) began to apply lacquer to chopsticks. This made them more slippery, but longer lasting.
在日本,通常每天要用的筷子底部都是尖的,这样的筷子哪里都是。在若州(日本一个沿海的小镇),17世纪初人们开始往筷子上涂漆,这样就使得筷子变得更滑了但同时也使筷子的寿命变的更长久了。
Lacquered chopsticks from Wakasa are among the most traditional styles. They may be dusted with powdered seashells, or coated with several layers of different colored lacquer which are then sanded through to produce multicolored patterns. Other prefectures produce chopsticks featuring the materials or techniques they are known for such as inlays of shells or intricate carving techniques.
若州的漆筷是日本最传统的筷子之一,有的时候是被洒上了贝壳磨成的粉,也有的时候是被盖上了不同颜色漆条然后磨光最后被做成了各种各样的款式。另外,日本有一些地方的筷子的装饰,则无疑显露出其地方高超的镶嵌技巧与精细的雕刻功底,而通常这类地方也因其而闻名。
Modern designs may include your astrological sign (Eastern or Western), the flora or fauna of the seasons, or popular animation characters.
现代的筷子上有可能会有你的星座(无论是西方还是东方),各种季节的花草或者动物,还或者是流行的卡通角色。
Some stores inJapanare devoted exclusively to the sale of chopsticks.
在日本,有一些商店对筷子的销售作出了极大的贡献。
They offer various designs for eating foods ranging from needle sharp points for fish, to spiraled tips for spaghetti, to almost paddle-like ends for ochazuke (rice covered with green tea). ou can find chopsticks made of ivory, bone, or plastic, but wood is the most common material. Willowis often chosen for a wedding gift because it is long lasting.
在这样商店中,你可以看到各式各样的用来吃饭的筷子,无论是细尖的用来吃鱼的筷子还是那种用来吃意大利面的螺旋形的筷子,亦或者是那种底部像勺子一样用来吃茶泡饭的筷子。你可能也看到过象牙做的筷子,骨头做的筷子或者是塑料做的筷子,但是最普通的也是最常用的制作筷子的材料是木头。人们一般都会选择用柳木做的筷子作为结婚礼物送给他人,因为柳木象征长长久久。
The Yoshino area, in Naraprefecture, is known for its cedar forests and as the origin of waribashi, "disposable chopsticks". During the seventeenth century, Yoshino was a production center for sake barrels and began turning the leftover scraps into the kind of chopsticks that are now commonly found in restaurants all over the nation.
在日本吉野一块,奈良因其茂盛的雪松以及一次性筷子而闻名,在17世纪,吉野是日本产清酒桶的中心地带,经常会有很多制桶剩余下来的木屑,于是这样剩余的木屑就被做成了现在哪里都能看到的一次性木筷。
Waribashi are made from a single piece of wood, partially split in the middle. The end user completes the splitting by pulling apart the two halves.
一次性木筷是由一小块木头做成的,可以从中间断开,许多人用完后就把它从中间一掰为二。
There is some controversy over disposable chopsticks. Some argue that, since they are made, even today, from scrap wood, they pose no threat to the environment. While this is true of waribashimade inJapan, it is estimated that ninety percent of the disposable chopsticks used inJapanare made in China, where trees are harvested for that single purpose.
对待一次性筷子,始终是有一些争议的。有些人说自从一次性筷子被创造出来,时至今日,对木头,对环境是极大的威胁。而事实上在日本,一次性筷子确实是起到了危险自然的作用,在日本百分之九十的一次性木筷都是由中国生产的,换句话说茂盛的树木只是为了生产一次性木筷这个仅有的目的。
A recent invention has eased the minds of both those who are concerned with the preservation of natural resources and those who feel squeamish about chopsticks that have been previously used by strangers.Tsunagibashi (literally "connecting chopsticks") are chopsticks with a socket halfway through their length so they cam be taken apart and fit into a convenient carrying case, to go anywhere with their owners.Connecting chopsticks are a thoughtful souvenir for the eco-friendly traveler.
最近一项发明平衡了那些环境保护主义者和拒绝使用公用筷子者之间的争端,Tsunagibashi(也就是所谓的“伸缩筷”)是一种中间有槽可以把筷子下半部缩进去的并且便于携带的筷子,人们走到哪里都能带着它,而伸缩筷也就成为了崇尚生态友好旅游人士最有意义的礼物。
Japanese chopsticks have also been made from silver and gold, especially for use in royal households where food tasters were employed.There was a time when it was believed precious metals would turn black when in contact with certain poisons. Japan's royalty may have lost some of its food tasters to this myth.
日本的筷子同样也有银做的和金做的,特别是皇室里那些仆人试菜时就经常要使用到。有一段时间,人们相信当接触到有毒物质时,那些珍贵的金属是会变黑的,所以日本的皇室的试菜仆人很有可能因为这样子虚乌有的理论而丧生。
And speaking of death brings us back to the ceremonial use of chopsticks.
谈到死亡,这里就不得不提到日本筷子特殊场合的另一种用法。
Cremation is nearly universal in modern-day, Japanese funerals. The body, however, is not reduced entirely to ash. It is customary for the extended family to transfer the bones of the deceased into an urn with chopsticks. Funerary chopsticks are tapered at only one end, but are quite different for those used at table. One is made from bamboo and one from wood, representing the elements of water and fire, thus creating a bridge between this world and the next.
在如今葬礼可以说是很普遍的事情,然而日本的葬礼,人死后的身躯并不是归于灰烬,在那些有势的大家族,他们通常会选择把逝者的骨头做成骨灰瓮,再搭配筷子。配合骨灰瓮的筷子一般都是只有一边尖头,但和通常在饭桌上使用的筷子是不一样的。前者是用竹子做的,后者则是用木头做的,骨灰翁配竹筷象征火与水,好比为现世和来世搭建了一个桥梁一番。
In the Japanese way of thinking, there is a lingering sense of the divine in any pair of chopsticks.A pair of your own, inhabited by memories made inJapan, can bridge the gap between the present and the past.
从日本人的思考方式看来,每一双筷子里都有神明的意识在回荡。自己的那一双来自日本的筷子,到处都充满着回忆,且相连着前世今生。
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摘录:下次如果你处于别扭的情形中,就把自我身上的注意力转到别人身上吧,并且问问自己怎样才能帮助他们或者给他们的人生增添价值。
Is Overwhelming Shyness Holding You Back?Were you one of those shy kids clinging to your mom's leg? Did you dodge attention, feel inferior and avoid being called out? Still doing that as an adult?
童年时你是否喜欢躲在妈妈身后?那时你是否害怕引人注意,被人一喊名字你就战战兢兢?成后年你还是那样吗?
Shyness and overwhelming self-doubt are more common than you think, and they're holding back millions of people just like you from living more exciting and fulfilling lives. But it doesn't mean that you can't destroy that terrifying fear that has been holding you back. You aren't meant to be shy. And there is no reason you can't shine in your own way.
其实害羞和极度自我怀疑比你想象的要常见,它们拖住了成千上万个像你一样的人的步伐,阻碍他们享受生活的刺激,干扰他们充实生活。但这并不意味你对其束手无策。胆怯也并非注定。世间没有任何力量能够阻止你发出耀眼的光芒。
From social gatherings, to business meetings, to your one-on-one relationships, if you want to break free from shyness, create better relationships and be more comfortable in your skin when you are around people then read on. There are time-tested techniques that have served me well in my personal life, as well as helping my clients. In a world where relationships are everything, you must set yourself apart and still stay true to who you are. Here is how to break free from shyness:
从社交聚会,到商务会议,再到二人关系,如果你想挣脱胆怯的绳索,打造更好的人际关系,或者想在人多的场合中感到舒适自在,那就继续往下读。我个人就有一些历经时间筛选的方式,它们适用于我,同时也帮助了我的客户。在这个关系说了算的时代,你必须在面面俱到的同时又不忘自我。以下就是克服羞怯的方式:
It's more of a mindset than what you do.
胆怯只是心态问题
From someone who has overcome overwhelming shyness and helps people gain more self-confidence to create more connection with other people, I'm about to break it down for you. What you are about to learn is the mindset of people who stand out, go after what they want and have great relationships.
作为一个克服了自我胆怯并且成功帮助他人获得社交自信的过来人,我也将助你攻克难关。你需要学习那些出众的人的心态,看他们有哪些需求,又是怎样建立了广泛的人脉资源。
This is a state of mind that if adapted will help you in your love life, your career, your health and your spiritual life.
如果你掌握了这种心态,那你的爱情、事业、健康和精神世界都将得到帮助。
What are some limiting beliefs about yourself that you currently hold that need to be changed?
至今你有哪些局限的思维需要改变?
Set realistic expectations.
树立实际期望
Everyone wants something different. One person may want to be on stage, whereas someone else may just want to be comfortable on a date or in a business meeting.
每个人都想有所作为。有人渴望万众瞩目,也有人期待一场快乐的约会或者会议。
As you learn these techniques and insights, it is important to be very clear about what you want and what it looks like. The goal here is to get you to feel good about being who you are and connecting with people.
你要掌握这些技巧和洞察力,因为你得清楚自己想要什么,清楚那些渴望是怎样的情形。这个目的在于让你自信地做自己也能自信地与人交往。
Everyone has a different expectation when it comes to what they want and how they want to feel when they connect to people.
说到与人打交道和其目的时,每个人都有不同的期许。
What do you want? How do you want to feel when you are around people? What does that look like for you?
你的目的是什么?当你与别人在一起时你是作何感受?而你又是怎样的状态?
Focus on sharing.
注意分享
By far, the most effective technique in overcoming shyness is to switch your consciousness from you to them.
目前为止,克服胆怯最为有效的方式就是将自我意识转移到他人身上。
Remember the last time you were in a situation and you were nervous or shy? I'd be willing to bet you were focusing on yourself: how you looked, what you were going to say, or how different you were from everyone else.
还记得最近那个使你紧张或羞怯的场景吗?我敢打赌你肯定是将注意力集中到自己身上了:你在乎自己的外表,关心要说什么话或者如何做到与众不同。
People that shine are focusing on delivering, serving and benefiting others in some way. They focus outward, not inward. Sure, it's important to be aware of how you are being perceived, but people always remember how you make them feel. In order to make them feel good you must focus on sharing with them.
出众的人都只注意与别人交流,为他人服务或帮助他人。他们看见的是外在事物而非自我感受。当然,偶尔注意下别人对自己的看法也是有必要的,但人们往往只会记得你给他们的印象。所以为了让对方有个好印象,你必须专注于分享。
Next time you are in an uncomfortable situation, shift your focus to someone else and ask yourself how you can help them or add value to their lives.
下次如果你处于别扭的情形中,就把自我身上的注意力转到别人身上吧,并且问问自己怎样才能帮助他们或者给他们的人生增添价值。
Be interested instead of trying to be interesting.
对周围感兴趣,而非让周围对你感兴趣
Make the focus of every conversation about someone else at first. This will take the pressure off of you and make them feel significant. Asking questions and genuinely caring about what the person says immediately gets you out of your own head and makes the person feel special.
开始要将注意力集中在和别人的每场对话中。这能减少压力并且别人也能找到存在感。无论对方在谈论何事,你都要及时提点问题并且由衷地关心,这样才能避免你沉浸在自我的世界中,同时说话的人也会感到有意义。
Be mindful not to interrogate, but simply show a curiosity about their world. Actually listen to their voice and less to that voice of doubt in your head.
注意不要去打断别人,可以时不时地表现出你的好奇。要真正地听取对方的话,而不要在脑袋中质疑内容的正确与否。
Your outcome is to have the confidence to create more authentic relationships with people. In order to do that you must build a comfortable bond with them. When you discover more about someone, connect your similar interests to create that bond.
你的目的是有信心去建立更加牢靠的关系。为了做到这一点你必须在彼此间找到对味的话题。当你更加了解一个人之后,你仍要兴趣不减地继续创造那种话题。
How will you start to be more interested in people? Will you ask them about their job, their taste in music, or an experience they had? Next time you do, seek for common interests to build a bond.
那你要怎样才能做到对一个人更加感兴趣呢?你会问及他们的工作,音乐的品味或者曾有过的经历吗?下次问别人的时候,找一个共同感兴趣的话题。
Embrace vulnerability.
拥抱脆弱
Trying to pretend that you are not nervous makes people nervous.
故作镇定只会让别人不淡定。
I was in a small workshop one time, shaking in my shoes. I just came right out and said, “You know what, you guys? This is my first time speaking in front of you and I'm terrified! Yikes!” Everyone opened up and started joking around. It broke the ice. I immediately felt more comfortable because I felt a part of them.
有一次在一个小车间里,我紧张得双脚哆嗦。于是我就站了起来然后说道,“伙计们,你们知道吗?这是我第一次在大家面前发言,紧张死了!哎呀!”众人听了都放开了,接着开始说笑。尴尬的局面就这样被打破。我瞬间觉得不忐忑了,因为找到了归属感。
Brené Brown, an expert in vulnerability (yes, there is actually an expert in vulnerability), says that courage actually comes from vulnerability. Ironically, people actually find vulnerability endearing. It makes them want to protect you, it makes you human, and it makes you relatable.
布勒。布朗是脆弱专家(确实,真的有这种专家),他说勇气实则源自脆弱。滑稽的是,人们事实上觉得脆弱是讨喜的事。因为那能让别人对你产生保护欲,而你也因此才具人性,这是能产生共鸣的特点。
Trust me, I hung out with the cool kids and the oddballs, too. They are all the same. Everyone freaks out at some time or another. Be vulnerable. It's OK!
相信我,潮人和异类我都接触过。二者都一样。但人们有时就是排斥其中之一。所以,脆弱没什么大不了!
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导语:也许你的朋友自认为很了解你,但是有些事只有最最亲密的好朋友才知道,并且也只有他们才能尊重你那些小怪癖!
1. What your breath smells like in the morning.
早上起来后口气的味道。
How do they deal with it?
他们会怎么做?
2. How much you hate the person you are being nice to right now.
你到底有多恨你正讨好的人。
3. What you look like in the morning.
早上起来你究竟是什么样。
Doesn’t matter if you went out partying the night before, you wake up looking like a caveman. Always.
你昨晚有没有出去狂欢了都无所谓,哪天你起来的时候不像个穴居人?一如既往!
4. How disgusting your room really is.
你的房间究竟有多糟糕。
Crumbs in your bed, wrappers everywhere, and where the hell did the floor go?!
床上到处是面包屑,包装纸满地都是,还有地板哪去了?!
5. How people clearly don’t know you when they say you’re nice.
当别人夸你人不错的时候,他们明显是不懂你啊。
6. That part of you that has a weird taste in romantic partners.
你对另一半的奇怪品味。
Admit it, we all have swooned for a weirdo at some point, and they went along with it.
承认吧,我们有时候是会为一些奇怪的人倾倒,最好的朋友是不会介意的。
7. How much you actually eat
你到底吃多少
Your stomach is bottomless pit.
你的肚子就是个无底洞。
8. Your passwords to everything.
你所有的密码
Because you always need them to do things for you.
因为你总会让他们帮你做事。
9. What series you are currently binge-watching.
你最近疯狂迷上的剧。
10. How you don’t want to admit you’re good at something out of fear of looking cocky.
你不想承认自己的专长只因为怕别人觉得你太骄傲。
So they just brag about it to everyone.
所以他们就像所有人炫耀你的专长。
11. Your immature sense of humor.
你幼稚的幽默感。
We don’t like to admit it, but we’re all super immature.
我们都不愿意承认这一点,但我们都超幼稚。
12. Your favorite places to eat.
你最喜欢去哪吃饭。
Because you make them go everyweek.
因为每周你都拉着他们陪你去。
13. Every stupid thing you’ve ever done.
你做过的所有蠢事。
Because 98% of the time they are there to witness it.
因为有98%的几率他们见证了整个过程。
14. The weird things your family does.
你们家做过的怪事儿。
Karaoke at 10 a.m. on the weekends, eating ethnic food with our hands, lots of screaming (usually because that’s how we talk to each other) — you name it, they’ve seen it all.
周末早上10点唱卡拉OK,用手吃民族特色食物,大喊大叫(通常是因为我们就是这么讲话的)——看吧,他们都知道。
15. And last but not least, how much you love them.
最后也是最重要的,你有多在乎他们。
Just the fact that you guys are close enough for them to know these things is proof right there.
正是因为你们足够亲密,你的好朋友们才会知道这些事。
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多朗读一些英语美文,不仅能提高我们的英语口语,还能从各个方面提升自身的气质,今天读文网小编在这里为大家分享一些双语朗读美文,欢迎大家阅读!
Think of how stingy you are with your money: if someone on the street asks for $10, you're not giving it to them. There's no way you're giving a 30% tip for a normal dining experience. And so on.
想想你在花钱上是多么的吝啬,如果有人在街上问你要10美元,你是不会给的。普通的一顿饭要收你30%的小费,那也是没门。诸如此类的事情还有不少。
And yet so many of us just waste ungodly amounts of our time. We throw it away, every day. I know I do unless I'm careful. What helps me to not waste time is to see it as an investment, and to keep track of the returns I get for my investment.
但是我们大部分人都肆意挥霍着时间,对于时间的浪费,每天如此。除非我们刻意留心,不然我们还是明知故犯。怎样做才能不浪费时间?不如将它看成一种投资,看看它能带来多少回报。
This approach has led me to recognize that some things offer incredible immediate return on investment: a night spent learning a new song on my preferred instruments, for example, gives me a lifetime of being able to play that song. That's an incredible return. Other investments are more like low-interest, high security, long-term investments: going to the gym, eating right, etc. Some, like reading good books, are kind of a combination of both.
在某些方面,让我觉得(投资时间)会有不可思议的即刻回报。比如,花一个晚上的时间,在我喜欢的乐器上学会一首新的曲子,那我今后的一生中就都会弹奏这首曲子。这是多么不可思议的回报。还有一些低利率、高安全率的长期投资,比如:去健身房锻炼、健康饮食等等。还有一些,包括阅读有意义的书,算是两者的结合。
But many activities are worthless from an investment perspective: whatever benefit they seem to give doesn't last any longer than the activity itself."Price is what you pay. Value is what you get." - Warren Buffett. This applies to everything: money, relationships, time. Knowing this changes your life.
但是有很多的活动从投资的角度来说是毫无价值的,除了活动本身的价值,其他的任何利益都不会得到延续。“你付出的是价格,买来的是价值。”这是沃伦·巴菲特的名言。这条定律适用于所有事物,金钱、关系、时间。知道这个会改变你的人生。
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摘录:许多问题的造成其实并不是因为我们自己运气差或者别人有意为之。事实上,这些问题往往是由我们自己的坏习惯产生的。
Many of our problems come from within our own minds. They aren't caused by events, bad luck, or other people. We cause them through our own poor mental habits. Here are 10 habits you should set aside right away to free yourself from the many problems each one will be causing you.
Stop jumping to conclusions. There are two common ways this habit increases people's difficulties. First, they assume that they know what is going to happen, so they stop paying attention and act on their assumption instead. Human beings are lousy fortune-tellers. Most of what they assume is wrong. That makes the action wrong too. The second aspect of this habit is playing the mind-reader and assuming you know why people do what they do or what they're thinking. Wrong again, big time. More relationships are destroyed by this particular kind of stupidity than by any other.
许多问题的造成其实并不是因为我们自己运气差或者别人有意为之。事实上,这些问题往往是由我们自己的坏习惯产生的。这里列出了十个习惯希望能够帮助你摆脱这些自己造成的麻烦又没必要的烦恼:
不要过早下结论。过早下结论会通过两条途径为你制造麻烦。第一是,你会认为自己已经了解所有的事情的发展,所以不再重视这件事情,而按照自己假设的发展方式操作事情。可惜人类并不是一种会算命的种类,所以大部分的假设都是错误的,这样也导致的事情常常失败;第二是,你会猜测别人的想法并且会做出假设,同样的,这些假设通常也是错误的。而且这些愚蠢的假设也导致了你与他人的关系被破坏。
Don't dramatize. Lots of people inflate small setbacks into life-threatening catastrophes and react accordingly. This habit makes mountains out of molehills and gives people anxieties that either don't exist or are so insignificant they aren't worth worrying about anyway. Why do they do it? Who knows? Maybe to make themselves feel and seem more important. Whatever the reason, it's silly as well as destructive.
Don't invent rules. A huge proportion of those “oughts” and “shoulds” that you carry around are most likely needless. All that they do for you is make you feel nervous or guilty. What's the point? When you use these imaginary rules on yourself, you clog your mind with petty restrictions and childish orders. And when you try to impose them on others, you make yourself into a bully, a boring nag, or a self-righteous bigot.
不要小题大做。很多人因为一些小挫折的刺激而做出过激的反应。小题大做使人变得紧张兮兮,产生过多的忧虑。
不要发明规则。过分的使用“应该”和“应当”是没必要的。这些词除了让你感到紧张外,不会有任何用处。为什么?因为当你使用这些发明的规则时,你会变得受约束和有孩子气的命令口气。而当你试图将这些规则强加于他人时,只会让别人对你产生厌恶的情绪(霸权,自以为是的)
Avoid stereotyping or labeling people or situations. The words you use can trip you up. Negative and critical language produces the same flavor of thinking. Forcing things into pre-set categories hides their real meaning and limits your thinking to no purpose. See what's there. Don't label. You'll be surprised at what you find.
避免给他人扣帽子。对别人否定的评价也会限制你对他的看法和想法。所以,避免预先给别人扣帽子,说不定你就可以发现别人其他不同一般的地方。
Quit being a perfectionist. Life isn't all or nothing, black or white. Many times, good enough means exactly what it says. Search for the perfect job and you'll likely never find it. Meanwhile, all the others will look worse than they are. Try for the perfect relationship and you'll probably spend your life alone. Perfectionism is a mental sickness that will destroy all your pleasure and send you in search of what can never be attained.
别做完美主义者。生活并非十全十美的。若寻找一个完美的工作职位,却永远找不到它,而一些看起来好的也并非那么好。追求完美主义是一种精神基本,它会摧毁你的一切快乐并且建立一堆你不可能实现的目标。
Don't over-generalize. One or two setbacks are not a sign of permanent failure. The odd triumph doesn't turn you into a genius. A single event-good or bad-or even two or three don't always point to a lasting trend. Usually things are just what they are, nothing more.
不要过分概括。一两次的挫折并不意味着永远失败,几次成功也不能说明你是一个天才。一件事--好或坏--或者二或三件事并不代表永久的趋势。一件事的成败就是它的成败,不要过分夸大其失败的教训和成功的经验。
Don't take things so personally. Most people, even your friends and colleagues, aren't talking about you, thinking about you, or concerned with you at all for 99% of the time. The majority of folk in your organization or neighborhood have probably never heard of you and don't especially want to. The ups and downs of life, the warmth and coldness of others, aren't personal at all. Pretending that they are will only make you more miserable than is needed.
不要怀疑别人在讨论自己。大部分的人,包括你的朋友和同事,在99%的时间内并没有讨论你或者考虑你。很多职位的同事和邻居甚至都不会认识你。别人对你的态度冷热大部分都非私人的想法。不断地怀疑别人在讨论自己只会让你多疑和痛苦。
Don't assume your emotions are trustworthy. How you feel isn't always a good indicator of how things are. Just because you feel it, that doesn't make it true. Sometimes that emotion comes from nothing more profound than being tired, hungry, annoyed, or about to get a head-cold. The future won't change because you feel bad-nor because you feel great. Feelings may be true, but they aren't the truth.
不要总凭直觉判断。你的直觉并不是总是一个正确的指示器,因为你只觉得会这样,但“觉得”并不说明这就就会是正确的。未来并不会因为你的直觉感觉会这样而改变。感觉可能是真的,但不一定是对的。
Don't let life get you down. Keep practicing being optimistic. If you expect bad things in your life and work, you'll always find them. A negative mind-set is like looking at the world through distorting, grimy lenses. You spot every blemish and overlook or discount everything else. It's amazing what isn't there until you start to look for it. Of course, if you decide to look for signs of positive things, you'll find those too.
不要让生活拖垮你,学着乐观一些。如果你期盼有坏事发生,想必常常都真的发生了。一个消极的人对于事物的看法都是扭曲的,他会发现世界是灰暗的,到处都是污点。换个方向想,如果你尝试去寻找一些积极的事情,你也一定会发现它们的。
Don't hang on to the past. This is my most important suggestion of all: let go and move on. Most of the anger, frustration, misery, and despair in this world come from people clinging to past hurts and problems. The more you turn them over in your mind, the worse you'll feel and the bigger they'll look. Don't try to fight misery. Let go and move on. Do that and you've removed just about all its power to hurt you.
不要沉迷于过去不可自拔。这是我认为这是最重要的一点:放开那些已经过去的事情,继续你的生活。很多的愤怒、沮丧、痛苦和绝望都是因为沉迷于过去的伤害和问题而造成的。你把这些已经过去的事情看得越重要,你的生活也就越沉重,你也更难从伤害中摆脱。不要尝试与这些过去的事件争斗,因为它们已经过去了,所以放开手,往前走。
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摘录:别傻了。读大学就是在为你的未来做好准备。
我向许多不同的人提了一个问题,即你想对过去的自己提些什么建议?下面直接列出人们给我的答案,未经任何修缮。
I asked a number of different people what advice they would give their younger selves. The responses are unedited below and are directly from responders to this question:
1. Don’t be stupid.
学着聪明点。
2. You could run into anyone from your past in your future.
在未来,你可能与任何过去认识的人不期而遇。
3. Take more vacations…
多享受假期……
4. Set some goals so we can have a better life. We are much smarter than we think we are so stop second guessing yourself. Follow your instincts. We will get through anything and everything that life throws at us so don’t despair.
只有给自己树立目标,才能获得更好的生活。我们比你自认为的要聪慧的多,所以别再怀疑自己。追随你的直觉。生活抛给我们的任何困难,我们都能够一一克服,所以别失去信心。
5. Don’t be so afraid of commitment. Sometimes it’s the thing you’re most scared of is the same thing that will end up setting you free.
别害怕承诺。有时候恰恰正是你最害怕的东西能够最终让你获得自由。
6. Don’t be stupid. College is all about setting yourself up for the future.
别傻了。读大学就是在为你的未来做好准备。
7. Just tell her that you love her.
快去告诉她你爱她。
8. College degree!!!!!
务必拿到大学文凭。
9. Enjoy life.
享受生活吧!
10. Don’t sweat the little things and don’t worry about things you can’t control. Everything will happen the way it’s supposed to.
对小事不要斤斤计较。对你无法掌控的事情不要杞人忧天。一切事物都会按照应有的方式发展。
11. Look around once in a while… sometimes what you need has been right under your nose the entire time.
偶尔看看你的周围。往往你需要的东西一直就在你的鼻子底下。
12. Trust your intuition more.
多多信赖自己的直觉。
13. Be patient and don’t rush things!
耐心点,不要太急躁!
14. Don’t worry about things so much.
忧劳伤身,别想太多!
15. Don’t smoke cigarettes.
别吸烟!
16. Learn how to handle your finances better.
试着更精明的处理自己的财务问题。
17. No matter how you feel today, get up, dress up and show up.
无论你今天感觉多糟,也要按时起床,梳洗打扮,出门开工。
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Every culture has its own etiquette red lines that tourists frequently aren’t aware they’re crossing. It doesn’t matter where you travel—you should never insult the people who live there by dismissing their customs. Here is a sample of some of the things not to do in Japan, France, Russia, and India.
每种文化都有独特的礼仪文化,这使游客们经常无法意识到自己触犯了禁忌。无论你到哪里旅行—你绝不能对当地人做无礼的事情特别是无视他们的风俗习惯。下面是一些在日本,法国,俄国和印度的禁忌事项。
Parlez fran?ais. Don’t expect to get by with English in France. The French have great pride in their language, and are somewhat resentful of its decline on the world stage. They don’t appreciate switching from French to another language at home.
说法语。不要期待在法国可以用英语来应付。法国人对自己的语言感到无比自豪,对它在世界舞台上的没落有些心怀不满。他们不喜欢在自己的祖国使用另一种语言。
Avoid talking about money issues. The French have a strong distaste for discussing financial matters openly. You’ll put people in an uncomfortable spot to talk about how much they make or spent on something.
不要讨论钱的话题。法国人很讨厌公开讨论资金问题。讨论他们的收入和花销会让人们感到很不自在。
Don’t rush while you eat. If you eat your food quickly, people will assume that you are a slob. The French take great pride in their cuisine, so savor what you eat. French lunches are known to last three hours long!
不要狼吞虎咽。如果你吃饭很快,人们会觉得你很粗俗。法国人对自己的美食也非常引以为傲,所以要享受你的饭菜。持续三小时的法国午餐也为人们所熟知。
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Construct vocabulary trees from short stories or articles you are reading.
通过阅读短篇小说或文章构建词汇树形表。
Build mind maps based on the stories or articles you are reading.
以正在阅读的文章为基础构建思维导图。
Photocopy a page or an article and highlight all the words you do not understand. Look up those words and add them to your vocabulary diary.
复印一页或者是一个篇章并标出所有你不认识的单词。查字典并把它们记录在你的词汇本里面。
When you come across a word you do not understand, first try to understand based on context.
当你遇到不认识的单词的时候,首先联系单词所在的语境来推测单词的意思。
Focus on prefixes and suffixes and find examples in a text you are reading. Underline and try to understand based on the prefixes or suffixes. Try to come up with the antonyms. These are words with an opposite meaning and are often related (unhappy - happy, misinformation - information, etc.)
注意单词的前缀和后缀并从文本中寻找例子。把它们用线标出来并尝试通过前缀和后缀来推测单词的意思。也可以通过反义词来推测。例如,unhappy(不开心的)- happy(开心的),misinformation(误报)- information (信息),等等。
Read a short story and try to retell or rewrite the story using as much vocabulary from the story as possible.
朗读一篇短篇故事,并尝试使用原文中的词汇复述或重写这个故事,词汇越多越好。
Note down nouns and adjectives you do not understand. Use a thesaurus to help you find synonyms to these words. Finding synonyms will help you learn groups of words with similar meanings.
记录下你不认识的单词和形容词,使用 thesaurus.com 来帮助你找出单词的近义词,这样能够帮助你学习到许多具有相同意义的单词。
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摘录:我可以忘掉全世界 却难忘你身影。
Nowadays many old people have Alzheimer's disease and other dementias. An old couple, Mr. and Mrs. Wang, from Taiwan, have both suffered from the Alzheimer's for a long time. However, their love, so far, has changed little despite the diagnosis. Their story is just like what is described in an old song:“ I can forget the whole world, but not you.”
当下许多老年人都患有阿尔兹海默病和其他痴呆症。来自台湾的王老先生和王老太太长时间来双双身患阿尔兹海默病。然而,他们的爱情至今未受疾病影响。他们的故事也正如一首老歌唱的:“我可以忘掉全世界 却难忘你身影。”
Mr. Wang, 85, is a retired army officer. He has been marrying his 69-year-old wife for 50 years. The couple suffers in succession the Alzheimer's disease when getting old. The disease took their health and memory away, but couldn't change their decades of deep feelings of each other. They forget everything, but still recognize each other's face. They look for the other's company at any time.
王先生,85岁,是名退休军官。他与69岁的妻子结婚50年。随着年龄的老化,夫妻俩相继遭受阿尔兹海默病的折磨。疾病夺走了两人的健康和记忆,但却夺不走彼此间几十年的深刻情感。他们什么也不记得了,但仍能认出对方的脸。并且无时无刻都在牵挂着彼此。
Mr. and Mrs. Wang hold each other's hands tightly when taking a walk outside. Only losing the view of his wife for a minute, Mr. Wang will be very anxious.
当外出散步时,王先生和王太太都会紧紧牵着手。只要王太太有一刻消失在视线里,王先生都会着急起来。
Mr. Wang usually got angry when forgetting his location. When feeling the bad temper of his husband, Mrs. Wang would lose her temper at the same time and help his husband to blame others.
每当忘记了地址,王先生都会发脾气。那时,感到丈夫心情不好的王太太也会开始发起气来帮丈夫责怪别人。
Recently, Mrs. Wang's condition worsened. She had to receive 24 hours' care in the care center. Mr. Wang had to leave his wife every evening. The separation was hard every time, Mr. Wang kept saying: “Where's my wife? I have to take her home.”
最近,王太太的病情恶化了。必须在护理中心接受全天护理。王先生只得每晚都与妻子分开。每次的分离都是痛苦的,王先生会一直念:“我的老婆在哪里?我要带她回家。”
Contrary to Mr. Wang's anxiety, Mrs. Wang, in a serious stage of disease, appeared happy every day. She liked to wear red dress and told the people around her that she was going to be married. When people asked her whom she will marry, she voiced out clearly and proudly the name of her husband. Her memory stopped at the happiest period of her life forever.
跟王先生的焦虑不同,处于疾病严重期的王太太每天都看起来很快乐。她喜欢穿红裙子,并且会告诉周围的人她就要结婚了。当别人问起新郎是谁的时候,王太太就会清楚嘹亮且骄傲地说出丈夫的名字。她的记忆永远停留在了人生最幸福的时光里。
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摘录:女人们都不喜欢提问,但是她们确实应该多问问题。
This Mother's Day, give your mom something that will help her sleep better at night. Women live about five years longer than men, on average, so chances are your mom will be winding down her golden years solo. Here are some steps you can take to help safeguard her finances and give both of you peace of mind:
Inform: 'First, everybody should know what assets they have and how they're titled,' says Roberta Anderson, senior vice president, private banking at People's United Bank in Greenwich, Conn. There is a generational divide here, she says: Younger women are more likely up to speed than those in their 80s and 90s.
在这个母亲节,送给母亲一些能让她晚上睡得更踏实的礼物吧!平均来说,女性比男性的寿命长约五年,所以你的母亲很可能会独自度过一段金色的晚年时光。下文为你提供了一些在财务上保护她的方法,让你们都能获得内心的平静。
If your mom isn't accustomed to doing so, encourage her to attend meetings with any financial, tax or estate-planning advisers. If she's already a widow or her husband is ailing, have her bring along a trusted friend or relative, says Ms. Anderson. And encourage her to be an active participant. No matter their age, 'women don't tend to ask the questions, and they should,' Ms. Anderson says.
告知:“首先,每个人都应该了解他们拥有哪些资产以及有哪些权利,”罗贝塔?安德森(Roberta Anderson)说。安德森是银行People's United Bank私人银行部门的高级副总裁,该银行总部位于康涅狄格州格林威治市。她说,在这一问题上,不同年龄的人差异很大:相较于那些八九十岁的女性,年纪更轻的女性或许更能掌握资产的状况。
如果你的母亲并不习惯于这么做,请你鼓励她与财务顾问、税务顾问或者是不动产规划顾问进行面谈。安德森表示,如果她的丈夫已经去世或身体不适,请让她带一位值得信赖的朋友或亲属一起前往。也请鼓励她做一位积极的参与者。无论年龄高低,“女人们都不喜欢提问,但是她们确实应该多问问题,”安德森称。
Pay especially close attention to beneficiary designations on retirement accounts. These supersede the will. So if a husband's ex-wife is still listed as the beneficiary of his 401(k) account--a common oversight--his widow will be out of luck.
对于退休账户受益人的指定应特别留神。它们优于遗嘱的效力。因此,如果某位丈夫的前妻仍被列为他401(k)退休账户的受益人(这种疏忽非常常见),这对于他的遗孀来说可是个坏消息。
Social Security benefits, too, warrant careful planning. Couples should almost always maximize the higher of their two benefits--often the husband's--by deferring the start of that benefit for as long as possible. This increases the payout for the couple, but especially for the surviving spouse--often the wife--whose benefit will be based on the higher amount.
社会保障福利也同样有必要进行仔细的规划。夫妻应该总是最大限度地利用俩人较高的那份福利金,这份福利金通常是丈夫的,夫妻应该尽可能地延迟申领这份福利金的起始时间。这会提高夫妻所领取的福利金的金额,特别对一方去世后的另一方(往往是妻子)尤其有利,因为尚存配偶的领取金额取决于较高的那份福利金。
If your mom is vulnerable to financial abuse, whether due to 'naiveté, confusion, or actual dementia,' inform her what the risks are and teach her to ignore emails, phone calls and mail from unfamiliar sources, says Michael Schulman, an accountant and financial planner in New York.
来自纽约的会计师、理财规划师迈克尔?舒尔曼(Michael Schulman)表示,不管是因为“单纯、困惑还是老年痴呆”之中的哪个原因,如果你的母亲容易受到财务欺诈,那么你必须要告知她风险所在并教她不要理会陌生的电子邮件、电话和信件。
'When my dad died, I explained to my mom, 'Don't respond to emails, period,' ' says Mr. Schulman, a member of the American Institute of Certified Public Accountants elder-planning task force.
舒尔曼表示:“在我父亲过世后,我向母亲解释,‘一句话,不要回复电子邮件。’”舒尔曼是美国注册会计师协会(American Institute of Certified Public Accountants)老年规划工作组的成员。
Insulate: 'At some point there's going to be leakage in the system,' he adds. Insulate your mom to the extent possible, he says. Help her automate her incoming and outgoing funds with direct deposit (Social Security payments already arrive this way) and, if she's computer-literate, online bill paying.
隔绝:“在某些时候,系统中会出现漏洞,”他又说。把你母亲和外界潜在的危险因素隔绝开,他说。通过直接存款(社会保障福利的付款已经可以自动到帐了),帮助母亲实现进账和出账的自动化,另外,如果你母亲会使用电脑,你还可以教她在网上缴付账单。
Ms. Anderson, trustee of her widowed, 90-year-old mother's revocable trust, set up small checking and credit-card accounts that her mom can tap for incidentals--'at-risk money,' Ms. Anderson calls it.
安德森是她90岁寡居母亲可撤消信托的受托人,她设置了小额支票账户和信用卡账户作为母亲可以动用的零花钱。安德森将这笔钱称作“风险资金”。
How at-risk? The other day, Ms. Anderson visited her mom at her upscale continuing-care retirement community. 'She was sitting on her couch in a pile of sweaters,' Ms. Anderson says.
何来“风险”之说?一天,安德森到母亲居住的高档持续关怀退休社区看望她。安德森称:“我母亲坐在沙发上,身边堆满了毛衣。”
The facility had invited a vendor in for the day, and Ms. Anderson's mother ended up charging $600 worth of sweaters to her credit card. 'I think I may have bought too much,' she confessed to her daughter. 'Yes, I think you did,' replied Ms. Anderson. The vendor has refused to take back the sweaters. Ms. Anderson plans to lower her mom's credit-card limit to $500. (She also plans to complain to the facility.)
Interact: 'As your mom gets less and less competent, you get more and more involved,' says Mr. Schulman, who regularly reviews his mother's account statements even though she still lives independently in another state. Be alert to unusual account activity or to new joint-account holders. These might include new 'friends' or distant--or not-so-distant--relatives.
养老机构当天邀请来一位商人,结果安德森的母亲就用信用卡买了总共价值600美元的毛衣。安德森的母亲向女儿忏悔道:“我可能是买的太多了。”安德森回答道:“是的,你的确是买多了。”这位商人拒绝接受退货。安德森计划将母亲的信用卡额度下调至500美元。(她还打算向母亲的养老机构投诉此事。)
互动:舒尔曼表示:“随着母亲的能力越来越弱,你的参与度应该越来越高。”舒尔曼会定期检查他母亲的银行对账单,尽管他母亲仍然独立地居住在另外一个州。要警惕异常的账户活动或新的联名账户持有人。这些人可能包括新“朋友”、远房亲戚或者“关系不那么远的”亲戚。
'Joint assets are a big red flag,' says Patricia R. Beauregard, a lawyer at Pullman & Comley in Bridgeport, Conn. In one case, a brother taking care of his incapacitated, widowed sister 'was also helping himself to her money on a pretty regular basis,' she says. He had made himself a joint account owner, engineered excess distributions from her retirement plans, and steered those into the joint accounts.
Ms. Beauregard says it's a good idea to pay care givers--even family members--for their time so they don't grow resentful and start stealing.
帕特里夏?R?博勒加德(Patricia R. Beauregard)表示:“联名资产是一个大的危险信号。”博勒加德是康涅狄格州布里奇波特市Pullman & Comley律师事务所的律师。她说,在一个案件中,一位照顾伤残寡居姐姐的弟弟“同时也一直在非常频繁地帮自己获取姐姐的钱财。”他将自己设置成了账户联名人,为姐姐的退休计划申请了超额支取,并将这笔钱打到了联名账户中。
博勒加德表示,向照顾自己的人(即使是家人)支付酬劳是个不错的主意,这样他们就不会心有不甘并开始偷窃了。
If your mom is still insurable, consider getting her a long-term care insurance policy. That, quips Ms. Beauregard, or a younger man.
如果你的母亲还可以投保,请考虑为她购买一份长期护理保险。博勒加德开玩笑说,或者一个比她年轻的男士。
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